“I don’t have to anticipate the needs of others”
See #3. ; -)
Seriously, isn’t that what we do when we’re young? When we’re dating? When we’re married and then becoming parents? When we’re planning things with people?
I was/am great at this. It is the way I was brought up to be. My Mother was a master at this, and I learned from her very well indeed. Call it Southern, call it Texan, call it anything you want – I thought of everyone else before I thought of me.
There are times I really miss, as a single person, not having that opportunity to anticipate those needs, especially of family. So now instead, I employ that particular skill set in my volunteer work, or when planning things with friends.
Sometimes I’ll take a step back and think that others will fill that void, you know, if I’m not doing it then surely they will? Uh . . . no!
Solution? Be happy fulfilling your dreams and your needs and let others take care of themselves.
Over the past couple of years I’ve really scaled back. I’ve released myself from the self imposed obligation to take care of, and anticipate, the needs of others. Does that make me selfish? I don’t really think so. Have they noticed? Maybe. Maybe not. But boy do I have alot more time these days to do the things I dream about.
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