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Surviving the unwanted divorce

Are You My Mother?

I know I have good friends who follow my blog, whether they agree or not, they follow it to make me feel less “alone” out there in the world. They follow it to give me emotional support and to let me know I’m not crazy. It’s also really really cool when someone else reads and enjoys (or “gets it”) it that is not one of my normal followers. It’s great to share thoughts and feelings and see what others are going through. This one touched me, even though I’m not from a broken home (I was the first in my family to get a divorce), my kids now are – and yes it’s a frightening statistic to see divorce becoming so cyclical in our lives. I thought you might enjoy this insight from a fellow blogger. No matter the ages of your children when you divorce, it makes an impression and “colors their world” for their future.

Missives by Michelle

I had a moment tonight. The tears flowed freely. I am angry and I am despairing that my family is broken. My ex is taking our youngest son to visit my ex-inlaws at their cabin, to do all the fun things we used to do as a family. I hate him for destroying our family. I miss our family. I abhor his selfish ways. I MISS MY FAMILY!! No matter what anyone says, things will never be the same. No matter what, we will always be divorced. Eventually, my ex has informed me that he will remarry, thus leaving the boys with a blended family. Divorce sucks and the consequences are evil. If you haven’t realized I am all over the place in the grieving process. That lead me to think about what family means. This is the first of a three part series on family.

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There Will Always Be Days – – –

Yes, there will always be those days that you experience “the lows”.  It’s a constant struggle to maintain “the highs” – and that’s not just a symptom of divorce.  That’s true for all people.
From the outside looking in, my friends and family would say I have a pretty outstanding “easy” life.  I have a lovely home, a paid for car, two adult sons who are successful and have loving relationships, freedom to live life on my own terms, etc.  But does that mean I don’t have times that I sink into the doldrums and wonder when (if) my heart will soar again?
I have those times, and I bet you do too.  Sometimes I can see them coming, sometimes not.   Sometimes they’re petty – I admit it, sometimes they’re justified.  They still happen.  I thought I had reached a time in my life where my “friend set” WAS set, and we’d march into our later years together with moxie and mojo.
Sadly that’s not always the case.  So you learn to be flexible.  You learn to forgive (or forget) those that have moved on and left you behind who don’t even know they’ve hurt you.  You make new friends, you try not to become more guarded this time around – but you just can’t help it.  This is especially true of your “single” women friends.
The minute they have a new man in their lives?   Sayonara!!  They  rejoin the “couples world”.  See ‘ya!
When I saw this quote below – it helped me tremendously.  My heart is still hurting a bit but this made me feel hopeful, and when you have “those days”, I hope you’ll save it and it’ll help you too!
Quote: “Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are
exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite
possibilities that are born in yourself and others.
May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has
been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are.
Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom
to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of
us.”
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A Penny Saved – – –

I love finding and sharing great ideas whether they be from friends, emails or other blog sites.  I try not to get too carried away though or I’d be sitting and staring at my computer screen all day every day.  So, when things strike me as funny, humorous or useful – I will pass them along.  I have some GREAT one/two liners I’ve been saving too that I found on Facebook.

It’s going to be a fun summer of sharing!!  Stay tuned – – –

 

http://www.365daysofcrockpot.com/2014/04/6-things-you-should-be-buying-at-dollar.html#more

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Hello To Light-Hearted Monday!

GOOD “Monday” TO YOU!!!  I received the following from a friend of mine and couldn’t resist passing it along!!  I hope you get a kick outta reading it like I did, and find a bit of humor in some of them.  I know I did.  I’ve been doing some traveling so the blog has suffered but I’m baaaaaaaack (also with a brand new wifi router so I can be connected!)   Looking forward to sharing more soon!!  Happy Belated Fourth of July to all!  (and also Happy Birthday to one of my followers MLL!!  Love ‘ya GF!!)

Subject: THOUGHTS

I’m not saying let’s go kill all the stupid people. I’m just saying let’s remove all the warning labels and let the problem work itself out.

I changed my car horn to gunshot sounds. People move out of the way much faster now.

You can tell a lot about a woman’s mood just by her hands. If they are holding a gun, she’s probably angry.

Gone are the days when girls used to cook like their mothers. Now they drink like their fathers.

You know that tingly little feeling you get when you really like someone? That’s common sense leaving your body.

I don’t like making plans for the day because then the word “premeditated” gets thrown around in the courtroom.

I didn’t make it to the gym today. That makes five years in a row.

I decided to change calling the bathroom the John and renamed it the Jim. I feel so much better saying I went to the jim this morning

Dear paranoid people who check behind shower curtains for murderers, if you find one, what’s your plan?

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