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Becoming the best version of yourself

1.  Don’t be afraid to accept and appreciate life’s changes.

1.  Don’t be afraid to accept and appreciate life’s changes.

“You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.  You’re always growing.  Experiences don’t stop.  That’s life.

Sometimes there are things in our lives that aren’t meant to stay.  Sometimes the changes we don’t want are the changes we need to grow.  Let this sink in.  Growth and change may be painful sometimes, but nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong.

The bottom line is that you can’t reach for anything new if you’re holding on to yesterday.  You may think holding on makes you strong, but oftentimes it’s letting go and starting anew that truly builds your inner strength.”

 

Seems appropriate for today, Valentine’s Day!  I relegated this “special day” to the rear view years ago, here’s why.  When in college, I got engaged on Valentine’s Day.  I also had a puppy that I named Valentine because of it.  After 9 months, he changed his mind and picked going to Law School over marrying me.  Heartbreaking at the time, but you move on.  Life’s changes.

Then along came serious love interest #2.  Our first date was on Valentine’s Day.  Not sure he realized it, but it certainly made the “remembering” our first date details much easier through the years.  Yes – we married but after 30 years, he called it quits.  Life’s changes.

It’d be very easy to feel sorry for myself, and I’m sure I did a bit after each failed relationship – BUT – looking back, those things are what made me the person I am today.  Strong, Independent and Happy – that’s a hard fought battle but you can get there.

So when it says to not be afraid of life’s changes, and to accept them and appreciate them – it’s a goal we can attain.   Accept change, embrace it, and know that you’re always growing.  2019 – the year of moving forward!

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Happy 7th Birthday?

Or is it 7th Anniversary?  Either way, I remembered today that 7 years ago on February 12, I wrote and posted my first “blog”.

Alot has happened in the past 7 years, some good, some bad – but all has made me the person who writes this to you all today.  I have grown.

Without you, my followers, I might not have made the progress that I’ve made, nor realized how happy I could become.  You are the wind beneath my wings, and I’m grateful for you all.

Thank you!

 

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Continuing On The “Moving Forward” Theme . . .

I’ve received many nice feedback comments on the New Year Resolve to be positive, and reminder to look forward.  Thank you.

Along with that theme, I share the below link of a few ideas for “de” cluttering.  After all, one of the best ways to move ahead, is to clean out and get rid of things that hold you back, or keep you mired in the past.

A year ago, I wrote about one of my big “clean out” projects.  I recycled or repurposed many things in my house including books to a lending library, my wedding dress to a group that makes burial gowns for babies who never leave the hospital, clothing-bags-scarves-shoes to Salvation Army & Dress For Success, blankets/towels and dog food to a shelter/rescue, etc.

It warmed the heart, and made my house more manageable.  Along those lines, I read this article below (as if you need a reason to de-clutter) about questions to ask yourself when deciding if you should hang onto something or not.  Hope it inspires you to “Move Forward” a little bit more.  : -)

https://www.realsimple.com/home-organizing/organizing/organizing-more-rooms/questions-to-ask-before-decluttering?utm_source=emailshare&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=email-share-listicle&utm_content=20190123

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New Year’s Resolve?

So how are those New Year’s Resolutions coming along???  I tried a new approach this year.  I was away from home for New Year’s and I had a blast.

Normally I sit home and wonder why none of my gal pals, or married couple’s friends wanna go out and do anything to celebrate new beginnings.  They’re in bed by 9:00 . . .

Maybe I didn’t get enough of the Party Life done when I was young?

So this year an opportunity presented itself.  My college team was playing in the New Year’s Day Sugar Bowl in New Orleans.  I reached out to some fellow crazy football friends to see if they wanted to take a trip to NOLA for the game and, oh by the way, New Year’s Eve?

Bam!  They said yes.  We had a blast.  We brought in the New Year together, well . . . OK, a couple of them did retire early but some of us saw the “ball drop” in NYC and toasted the entry of 2019.  Win or lose for the football game, we were gonna bring in 2019 and look “forward” to new beginnings and a happy New Year.

As luck would have it, a miracle occurred and we did win the football game, but that was just the icing on the cake.  The best part was being together, and agreeing that the past is in the rear view, and the future is bright.

So my new approach that I alluded to above?  No New Year’s Resolutions, just a promise to myself that life is only as good as I make it myself.  Look forward, always.  The past is not your life sentence, the future is what you make it no matter the hand you were dealt!

This is going to be my year.

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