Nope, no matter how hard we try, it’s there. It happened.
Are you like me and sometimes think in your active imaginative brain what “coulda been” . . . if only?
I replay things over and over and formulate different endings. Yes, I do the “shoulda, woulda, coulda” dance in my head. But to what end?
That would be the end that drives you crazy because unless you find a time machine, the past cannot be changed. Nor probably should the past BE changed because it’s how we learn. It’s the old, “If this . . . then that”!! For every action there is a reaction (high school physics, not my favorite – just sayin’!)
As I grow older, I understand that the past cannot be changed and I must keep trying to do what’s right, what’s best for me in my own personal situation. Other’s may not always agree with my actions, my thoughts, my behavior – but it is mine and I own it.
I alone am responsible for how I take the past in to account to decide my future. I am much happier now, than I was in most of my past. I thought I had a loving marriage – I was wrong, but what I take from that is invaluable to how I move forward. That hurt has made me strong, those lessons have been learned and stored for future reference.
I am a better person because of the past, changing it would alter the course of my life as it is now – so no thanks. I’m a better person because of it.
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