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Surviving the unwanted divorce

The “Positive Spin” – – –

I recently posted about some disappointments I’ve had in people I considered good  friends, and how much that can hurt and deflate you.  Since some of my followers are people that I see on a regular basis, I received questions of concern and curiosity.  Not only is it great to know people do read what I occasionally send out, but heart warming to realize that there are still many who care and hope for the best for me.

While I wish that everything that I share could be positive, sometimes there are things that I send you to be thought provoking; then there are the things that cause my heart sorrow and I just need to get it off my chest during my most alone times.

I need look no further for a positive spin on the disappointments in life than this quote from President John F Kennedy who knew the highest of the highs and the lowest of the lows.

“Change is the law of life.  And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future”

While I’m pretty sure this statement had little to do with my feeling down and disappointed, and everything to do with our great nation’s future back in the early 60’s, it still rings true for “life in general”!  I’ve written before about the difficulty in driving “forward” if all you do is look in “the rear view mirror”.

This is just another way of saying it.  Such an easy concept, and such a hard thing to put into practice.  Instead of a “New Year’s Resolution” – maybe the thing I do is have a resolution every day to try to be more positive.  Look for the things you can add to your life to make yourself a better, brighter and happier person, and walk away from the things – or people – who drag you down.

Rose colored glasses and glass “half full” are my mantras of the day . . . what are yours?

 

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Another Weekend . . . Yippy?

Been kinda weird lately.  Lots of little things going wrong that are all starting to pile up.  I keep thinking that if one little positive thing would happen, then I wouldn’t mind so much all these little pesky things that keep getting me down.

I’m still waiting.

Maybe I’m having bad karma, maybe my biorhythms are crossing, but I’m truly feeling totally out of sync with the rest of the world.  Feeling out of sync and totally alone.  So alone that when I saw this link pop up that I not only considered opening it, I DID!

I’ve sworn off dating, I’ve thrown in the towel, I’m coming to grips with the fact that there is no white knight or charming prince in my future.  But hey, maybe you haven’t given up the hope yet????  So just in case you still believe in the fairy tale of happily ever after, at least this site has what they call the “Ten Best Dating Websites”!

So if your weekend is looming ahead of you as lonely and empty as mine is, here’s something for you to read up on, or maybe join “for free”.   Maybe there’s even one on there that you haven’t tried before.  After all, they only ever publish their “happy endings”, but wouldn’t you just really love to know how many people do not find matches on these sites?

OK – I’ll quit being negative . . . but the weekend is looming, the weather is kinda awful and well . . . you know . . .

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MEN!!!! @#$%^&(?!+>)&%$#@! A Bit Of Humor To Share . . .

WHY MEN ARE SELDOM DEPRESSED:

Men Are Just Happier People —

What do you expect from such simple creatures?

Your last name stays put.

The garage is all yours.

Wedding plans take care of themselves.

Chocolate is just another snack…

You can never be pregnant.

You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.

You can wear NO shirt to a water park.

Car mechanics tell you the truth.

The world is your urinal.

You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky.

You don’t have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.

Wrinkles add character.

Wedding dress $5000. Tux rental-$100.

People never stare at your chest when you’re talking to them.

New shoes don’t cut, blister,
or mangle your feet.

One mood all the time.

Phone conversations are over
in 30 seconds flat.

You know stuff about tanks.

A five-day vacation requires
only one suitcase.

You can open all your own jars.

If someone forgets to invite you,

He or she can still be your friend.

Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.

Three pairs of shoes are more than enough.

Everything on your face stays
its original color.

The same hairstyle lasts for years,
even decades.

You only have to shave your face and neck.

You can play with toys all your life.

One wallet and one pair of shoes —
one color for all seasons.

You can wear shorts no matter
how your legs look.

You can ‘do’ your nails with a pocket knife.

You have freedom of choice
concerning growing a mustache.

You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives
On December 24 in 25 minutes.

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Walking – It’s For Free!

I’m involved with two animal rescue groups here in my hometown.   One happens to be a “breed specific” rescue group, where I have adopted and fostered since 2007 – TYOTD.  (The Year Of The Divorce)  The other is an amazing “No Kill” Shelter where all breeds of dogs, cats, ferrets, bunnies – you name it, are welcomed.  The work is heart warming.  But . . . back to the dogs . . .

Dogs are my pet of choice, they keep me company in the house and provide for me the “opportunity” to get out of that same house on a daily “times three” basis!  Meaning??  I enjoy walking my dogs.  They love it, I love it, and it helps me hit my 10,000 steps a day so my FitBit loves it!

Recently I read an article encouraging you to “Fake Joy”.  I’m thinking . . . say what??  But hear me out, because it resonated with my own daily walking experience.  Gretchen Rubin is the best-selling author of The Happiness Project.  She suggested you could “fake joy”.  Seriously?

Here’s what she says:

We think that we act because of how we feel.  But we also feel because of how we act.  So use this knowledge to change your mood.  Jump up and down; getting both feet off the ground makes you feel childlike and energetic.  Or go for a walk.  Just this morning I got an unnerving e-mail from someone and felt lousy about it.  So I headed out for a walk in Central Park with a friend.  So many things that tend to make a person happy are wrapped up in one little thing – a walk.  It really works!  When I got home, I wasn’t irritated anymore.  I realized, yeah, I got my perspective back.”

I love to walk, and whether or not it’s alone, with the dogs, with friends, around the park or in the neighborhood – it’s exhilarating.  It’s healthy, it’s good for your heart, your brain, your attitude.  I didn’t realize until after reading this article that the author is right – I always feel better when I’ve come in from a walk.

It’s a small step (pun intended) but maybe the beginning to making you feel better about your life?  The best part?  It’s FREE!  So as I wrap this up, and the dogs are sitting at my feet looking at me and thinking – LADY, ditch the bathrobe and let’s get going – it’s time for me to take a walk because I know that it’s going to make me feel better.  Let’s go!

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