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Sad Statistics – What Are We Doing Wrong???

I recently read a study in an old copy of my AARP magazine. (Yup, I’m that old – although you start getting this when you hit 50, and that is no longer “old”)

It talks about the statistics of divorce rates and it was just plain ol’ depressing. I have marriageable aged sons and this depresses me for them and for their generation. They have already had friends get divorced – EGAD! What’s our world coming too?

So on days when you feel so alone and betrayed by being a divorcee, think of these numbers and realize that you are by far no longer the minority. Divorce is everywhere and a sad state of affairs (pun intended!).

In the 1950’s, 60 percent of U.S. families consisted of two married parents: a breadwinner and a homemaker. Today only 20 percent of American children live in such a family. Instead, couples divorce – or never marry in the first place – and form new households, raising their kids in a tumble of step- and half-siblings. And although the divorce rate has been declining among younger couples, among boomers it has increased 50 percent in the past 20 years – with no slowdown in sight. The baby boomers are likely to have the highest lifetime levels of divorce of any generation born in the 20th century.

I don’t have an answer to this, but I can still recognize that it’s very sad to realize how easy it is to be cast off for that “greener grass” on the other side of the fence.

It’s no wonder so many of my single women friends have NO desire to ever put themselves in that position again. I guess instead of a fence, we should have built walls . . .

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A Simple Thought For All Of You Today . . .


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Let Gratitude Change Your Attitude – – –

So I was driving along the other day and there was a break in the music on the radio for a church ad.  Usually I listen to XM/Sirius radio so there’s little interruption but for some reason I was on regular radio programming.  A minister came on and was asking for attendance for the upcoming Sunday.

Generally I tune ads out, but there was just something about his voice.  Maybe that’s one of the things that lead him to his calling – a great voice that makes people sit up and notice.  His topic of discussion was going to be “Let Gratitude Change Your Attitude” . . . and it really stuck a chord in me.

I’ve said before how we can control our feelings and decide how we are going to let things that happen to us shape us.  I know you’ve heard it all before whether it be from your well meaning friends and family, or a therapist or divorce recovery group.  The message is always the same – you can get through this, you will feel better, you will recover.

But dang if it isn’t really  hard to do, right??

So when I heard this, it was like . . . WOW!  How five words can have such a profound impact?  Amazing.  I started thinking of all the things I have to be grateful for, and there are a lot.   You know what starts to happen when you let gratitude change your attitude?  You start smiling, your heart warms and your perspective does change.  You look at things a bit differently.  It’s slow at first, it’s SO easy to think of all the negatives and wallow in the gloom and doom.

I know, I’ve done it!

And I know that I will continue to do it at times BUT –

Maybe if everyday we look around us at the things we have to be grateful for, it could be the beginning of something really wonderful.  It just might, over time – change that attitude into a smile!

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Men Are Like . . .

I copied this from the internet the other day.  It made me want to laugh uncontrollably.  There IS some humor out there when speaking about on of our most talked about subjects.  While I’m not sure the photos are going to come through (I’m still technologically challenged!) the gist of the message certainly does!!  Read and laugh, we all need a bit of humor at times!!


For all those men who say, Why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free. Here’s an update for you: Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage, WHY? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an “entire pig” just to get a  “little sausage”.

1. Men are like Laxatives.
They irritate the crap out of you.
2Men are like Bananas. The older they get, the less firm they are.
3.Men are like Weather.
Nothing can be done to change them.
4.Men are like Blenders.
You need one, but you’re not quite sure why.
5.Men are like Chocolate Bars…
Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6.Men are like Commercials. You can’t believe a word they say.
7. Men are like Department Stores…Their clothes are always 1/2 off!
8.Men are like. Government Bonds….
They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like … Mascara.
They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10.Men are like Popcorn.
They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11.Men are like Snowstorms.
You never know when they’re coming, how many inches you’ll get
or how long it will last.
12! .Men are like Lava Lamps. Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13.Men are like Parking Spots.
All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.


Real life rom com

Like Beyonce’s song, here’s one for “All The Single Ladies”!! We do need to remember that we are valuable and we are WORTH IT!!

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Romance sometime makes suckers and chumps out of us women. However, since splitting from Deluded Dick, aka the ex, I have begun to reconnect with the rom com/ chick flick. To be honest I was never one for romance and what I termed ‘girly shit’ which is probably why Deluded Dick got away with so much. Yes he’d make the occasional grand gesture but it was always undermined by his behaviour and his cheapness. While splashing the cash on booze, prostitutes, strippers, drugs and gadgetry he neglected to treat me to anything other than underwear: a gift from him to me that was really a gift for his dick. What a charmer. After years I pointed out his same old same old gift buying tactic and then began receiving… nothing. The most I got was the honour of selecting a Lovefilm DVD to watch with DD while he spent the…

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