Trust never used to be an issue for me. I grew up in an honest family, I had honest friends, I was an honest person myself. I was insulated – that’s for sure. The older I get the more I learn that there are many untrustworthy people out there.
They think nothing of a little white lie, and that’s only the beginning. What about “lying by omission”? Can you trust a person who chooses not to tell you something? That’s a gray area for most. When my ex was living “outside the bonds of marriage”, I had friends that knew what was going on. They chose not to tell me. That’s a lie by omission. Acting like everything was great, life was good, all were happy. All were NOT happy.
So when it comes time to think about putting yourself out there again, once you’re past the initial stages of healing from your divorce, how easy do you think it’ll be for you to trust once again? I trusted too quickly and had my heart stepped all over by a man I cared about. Each time that happens I will be more inclined to not trust, to protect myself – but that’s just me.
Below is one of many articles about dating and trusting once again. Maybe it will provoke some thoughts that you need to consider because none of us ever again want to go through what we’ve already been through. As always I welcome your thoughts!
http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/about-you/learning-how-to-trust-again/#.U3EnLtZlyEU.email%5B/