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Contentment – Such A Hard Place To Get To From Here . . .

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Be content with what you have;
Rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
The whole world belongs to you.
– Lao Tzu

When I first saw this I was drawn into the photo.  Thoughts of “the road less travelled” and what the mountains look like after a summer rain and curiosity about what’s behind the bend, filtered through my brain.  I’m a very visual person – reading the text was secondary.

Then I read it.

HELLO!

Isn’t it amazing how some people can just sum it up in a brief, few short lines?  I’ve never been able to do that.  I’m wordy.  My sons don’t even listen to my voicemail messages anymore.  They just see that I’ve called and phone back.

(Of course if they would LISTEN to the message, they could call me back with the answer in hand and save me a lot of explaining but oh well . . . youth!)  Back to my point . . .

I have a very difficult time in rejoicing in the way things are.    I’m content with the things I have, no problems there.  But the way things are?  Not so much.  I believe that is a harder one for me to achieve.  Most especially the way things are that I have NO control over.  I’m NOT a control freak, but when things happen to me that I have no control over?  My world shifts and I lose my balance.

I don’t like losing my balance.

. . . When you realize there is nothing lacking,
The whole world belongs to you.

This one is going to be difficult because I’m one of those people that can look at a situation and definitely see what’s “lacking”.   I vow that this year I will try to head around the corner in that photo above and find that world that belongs to me.

 

 

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A Humorous List For Dating Rules!

18 Ugly Truths About Modern Dating That You Have To Deal With | Thought Catalog
http://thoughtcatalog.com/christopher-hudspeth/2014/04/18-ugly-truths-about-modern-dating-that-you-have-to-deal-with/#i5pqH1L98J6iGxKx.03

I’ve given the “dating thing” a wide berth lately.  By the time you read this I will have let the last dating site membership expire.  (Note:  Just for the fun of it I changed the zip code on it for a month while I was in another state just to test the waters.  Yup – no hits here either!)

Of course these sites are only going to promote their successes!  But I would just LOVE to get the ACTUAL stats on how many people actually have success on them.  Meanwhile they just keep raking in the $$ because of desperate and lonely people.  OK, “desperate” might be a bit too harsh but you know what I mean.

It’s brutal out there, especially for “older” women.

So I saw this and thought I’d share.  Like I’ve said before – Netflix still my best companion!

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Who Needs The Drama?

“Come Sit with Me. There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from
all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who
make you laugh. Forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who
treat you well, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything
but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.”
I don’t know whose quote this is but I just love it!  If I did I would give them credit as it’s deserved.
Why the drama?  Do you ever find yourself asking this question regarding certain friends or events?
Seriously, it’s exhausting.  Maybe it’s attention seeking people who need the drama to bring focus to themselves?  The older I get the less I want to be around the Drama Queens and Drama Kings.
No doubt in the past there have been things I have done or said that have caused people to say the same thing about me but I sincerely hope it was minimal and few and far between.  I find I no longer have the patience for it like I did in the past.
Back in the day I used to joke that “Caller ID” was invented to save us from people filled with the need for attention.  I’ve now amended that realizing that it was probably invented to alert you to sales calls but you get my drift.
Lately I’ve been striving to surround myself with those people who care about me, are not looking for anything in particular from me but just honest friendship and good times together.  I’m saving the Drama for television series and movies with popcorn.  Life is too short.
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