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I’ve Got My Left-Turn Blinker ON!!

 

Ha!!  It’s been a crazy 10 days, and when I saw this, I definitely decided I need a direction change.  I gotta tell you, that little rain cloud over my head is getting durned annoying.

A week ago Thursday, had to put down one of my dogs.  They’re all special, and she was 13 1/2, but she was my spirit animal.  Rescued her after my divorce was final, and we moved into our new “single life” home together the first night.  It was really hard letting her go.

Less than a week after that, my other two escaped the yard that has an electric fence, that unfortunately had been severed by the landscapers – bad time to find out.  Chasing a deer, pretty instinctual, but not having the fence working certainly didn’t slow them down.  Good samaritan to the rescue, I thought my luck was changing.  Crossing the heavily traveled road hot on the tail of that deer, well . . . . let’s just say everyone is amazed that those dogs survived their adventure.  (Longest 11 minutes of my life, as my FitBit watch recorded my heart rate during the chase as being on an elliptical)

Then the printer decides to die, printhead error – what the heck is a printhead?  So FINE!!  I’ll start looking for a good replacement.  And I’ll be able to go buy it when the car (that died in the garage Saturday) recovers from a dead battery drained by an alternator that needs to be replaced because YES – I really really wanna spend that extra $500??

OK – enough whining, but starting tomorrow – that left turn blinker will be flashing BRIGHT!

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The Older I Get, The More I Come To Realize – – –

Do you sometimes wonder if you’ve ever really had anyone like that in your life??  Someone that loves you no matter what??  If you have, then you’re lucky.

Too many people and situations put “conditions” on a relationship.    If this, then that – maybe.  I’ll be with you if . . .    I’ll love you if . . .  Conditions.

Look for those real people today, and every day.  There might not be many, but cherish the ones that you do have.  Be grateful for those few who want to make you smile, and to see you happy.

And just maybe, you will be that person to make someone else smile?

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It’s Birthday Week!

Ha!!!  People used to say, “It’s better than the alternative”!  “WHATEVER”!

For some reason I’m really starting to feel it.   Maybe that comes hand in hand with the fact that I’ve entered the world of Medicare?  Or looking at drawing Social Security?  Or my kids are getting older therefore surely I must be also?

If your eldest just turned 39, . . . well . . . you do the math.

So this Birthday Week I’ll try to feel more spry.  I’ll ignore the wrinkles (easiest to do without reading glasses or a 10X makeup mirror!).  I’ll ignore the newest pain of an achilles tendon while I try to get my 10,000 steps in.  I’ll ignore this Keto diet thing so I can have birthday cake (or birthday pizza – yum!).

And I’ll enjoy hearing from my friends and family because I guess turning another year older, and acknowledging being able to get Senior Citizen discounts at the movies, really is better than the alternative.  Just sayin’ . . .

 

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Never Forget – – –

Those who served, those who gave their lives so that we might have a better one.  Happy Memorial Day to my trusted and faithful followers.

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As We Approach Summer Time – – –

Are you like me and looking forward to “getting away” for a while??

Has the rat race we call life worn you out or put you in a bad mood??

Here is a recommended list of books to read if you’re having a bad day, or just need a mental escape!!  I’m adding them to my “to do” list this summer!!

https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/entertainment/good-books-to-read-bad-day?utm_source=emailshare&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=email-share-listicle&utm_content=20190124

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For Today, And Every Day . . .

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Now, it’s your turn…

Now, it’s your turn…

“… I sincerely hope this has inspired you to LIVE your life TODAY…

Don’t ignore death (or any form of pain), but don’t be afraid of it either.  Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action on what matters most.  Truth be told, death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive and breathing.

Be bold.  Be courageous.  Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

Do the hard things you know you need to for yourself!

Every.  Single.  Day.”

 

As I wrap up this 10 part series of shared posts, I’m reminded of a great line in the movie “Flashdance” (yes I’m dating myself).  The heroine is contemplating giving up her dream of learning “classical Ballet/dance”.  Her romantic interest tells her, “You give up your dreams?  You die.”

Doesn’t a little part of us die inside every time we give up on our dreams?  On ourselves?

Remember.  This is OUR year!  Live life LARGE.

Every.  Single.  Day!

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10.  Don’t be afraid of other people’s empty judgments.

10.  Don’t be afraid of other people’s empty judgments.

“The greatest and most gratifying experiences in life cannot be seen or touched.  They must be felt with the heart from the inside out.  There’s nothing more inspiring than the complexity and beauty of human, heartfelt feelings.  Sadly though, many people let the fear of judgment numb and silence them.  Their deepest thoughts and feelings often go unspoken, and thus barely understood.

Do NOT let people invalidate or minimize how you feel.  If you feel something, you feel it and it’s real to you.  Nothing anyone says has the power to invalidate that, ever.  No one else occupies your body, or sees life through your eyes.  No one else has lived through your exact experiences.  And so, no one else has the right to dictate or judge how you feel.  Your feelings are important.  Never let anyone or any circumstance lead you to believe otherwise.

Remind yourself that there is a great freedom in leaving others to their opinions, and there is a huge weight lifted when you take nothing personally.”

 

This is a great last part of this series of posts I’ve been sharing.  It is so validating to me to read this and I’ll tell you why.

When I published my book on divorce recovery and “survival” as a newly single woman, one of the first points I tried to get across to my readers was “your feelings are YOUR feelings”.  Don’t ever let people judge you or tell you HOW to feel, and WHEN to feel and WHAT to feel.

People are always going to try to tell you what to do, when to do it, how to do it, how THEY would do it, and so on.

Friends and family (one hopes) want what’s best for you – that’s great.  However, you have to walk the path of your life yourself, in the way that you feel is best for you.  You’re going to make some people mad; you’re going to receive  some criticism both behind your back and to your face.  You may have to live with knowing you’ve disappointed those who are closest to you . . .

Let it roll off like water on a duck’s back.

If we’re trying to be the best version of ourselves this year, then we need to listen to our hearts.

Can you hear it?

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9.  Don’t be afraid to live out some of your dreams.

9.  Don’t be afraid to live out some of your dreams.

“There are thousands of people who live their entire lives on the default settings, never realizing they can customize everything.  Don’t settle for the default settings in life.  Don’t hide behind laziness.  Find your loves, talents and passions, and embrace them fully.

Seriously, too many people dream only at night in the quiet of their own minds, and then awake to find it was all an illusion.  Don’t be one of them.  Dream by day, too.  Be one of the people who dream with their eyes wide open, and who works to make some of them come true.

And forget popularity too.  Just do your thing with passion, humility, and honesty.  Do what you do, not for an applause, but because it’s what’s right.  Pursue it a little bit each day, no matter what anyone else thinks.  That’s how dreams are achieved.”  

(Read Tuesdays with Morrie.)

 

Sounds so simple doesn’t it?  I’ve now entered what I lovingly refer to as the last 1/3 of my life.  OK, so my Mom just turned 100 on Christmas Eve, so maybe I’ve got a bit more time, but seriously?

What am I waiting for?  If it’s not something that is holding you back (like finances) but something that you can dream about, then accomplish – what are you waiting for?

I’ve mentioned before, the last year of college, I set myself some life goals.  Of the five, I didn’t finish the fifth and final one till last year.  I graduated college in 1975, you can do the math.

So now I’m setting myself new goals.  They’re also larger goals.  I may not make them all, but I surely won’t if I don’t dream about them then plan for them.

What are your dreams?  What are you goals?

Are you with me?

 

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Some Days You Hear Sad Songs . . .

That moment when you realize that a 20+ year tradition, of one of your most favorite activities, has gone and left you behind?

That moment when all those fun memories haunt you because you have to come to realize, you’ll never have the opportunity to add to them?

That moment when you begin to come to grips with parts of your “old life” passing you by and there’s nothing you can do about it?  And people don’t really understand why it bothers you?

That moment when you try so hard not to let your heart hurt for another one of life’s disappointments?

There are going to be days like this.  You are going to have times where all you hear are the sad songs.  It’s OK.

But I promise that tomorrow you’ll feel better, I know I will.

I don’t normally “interrupt” when I’m sharing a “series” with you all, but I knew you’d understand my need to connect today, on a sad day.  Because just like that old fashioned bobber on the end of a cane pole fishing line, the weight of sadness will not keep me under water.  I’m a bobber, and I will pop right back up to that surface – because life’s sad days happen, but will never define me.

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