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Becoming the best version of yourself

“Loving My Actual Life” – – –

A promise?  Or a book?

Both!

It started with reading that book:  “Loving My Actual Life” written and lived by Alexandra Kuykendall.  She called it an experiment in “relishing what’s right in front of me.”

I call it a challenge, the gauntlet has been thrown down and can I do it?

I think so.  I’ve been heading that direction for quite some time now.  Baby steps.  Or how’s about this one?  Rome was not built in a day!

The hardest part is beginning, trying to be more positive when everything around you is screaming “pity party”!!

When I got divorced at age 54, I had been well on my way to knowing exactly where I was headed in life.  Then the wall of divorce was built around me and tried as I might, I couldn’t seem to find the ladders to get over that wall.  I started chipping away at the bricks and mortar of that wall and piece by piece found that my “post divorce” actual life was something that I could love.

Easy?  No!  Possible?  Abso-freakin’lutely!

It starts with beginning to pay very close attention to what you really love to do, what brings you joy?  Do you have a goal, a dream, a passion?  I do, I have many.  Once I started to focus on my needs, vs everyone else’s the possibilities were endless.  Not easy, and there are roadblocks, but do-able.

Author of the book, Ms. Kuykendall says:

I know this idea of paying attention to what I love to do can feel like a luxury, but if I don’t pay attention to it I can quickly move from gratitude for this life to resentment of others’ needs.

There is something wired in each of us that wants to live on purpose for a purpose.  Some of our great cultural icons have spoken on passion.  From Nelson Mandela, who said, “there is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living,” to Steve Jobs:  “You have to be burning with an idea, or a problem, or a wrong that you want to right.  If you’re not passionate enough from the start, you’ll never stick it out.”  It’s about something bigger than here and now.  It’s about possibilities.  And it’s about what we are each driven to work toward.”

What are your dreams and passions?  What are your opportunities?  Baby steps . . .

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Opportunities!

Advice columnist Ann Landers said:  “Opportunities are often disguised as hard work.  Most people fail to recognize them.”

Suffice to say not all people are on board with “hard work”.  There are those that expect things to be handed over to them without so much as lifting a finger to deserve it.  Irritating? Yup!  Universal?  Double Yup!

Author James MacDonald said:  “Those who study human experience agree almost universally that life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you choose to respond.”

It gives me pause, and it should, because how I choose to respond to something could change my life and those around me for a very long time.  We’re not always dealt the hand that we want to play with – but unlike golf, there aren’t many “mulligans” in that life.

Your decisions and your attitudes play a huge part in taking advantage of opportunities.  And yes, it does indeed require hard work.  I leave you with a quote from another author, Charles Swindoll, on the power of being positive with your possibilities!

“Words can never adequately convey the incredible impact of our attitude . . . I believe the single most important decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my attitude choice.  It’s more important than my past.  It’s more important than my education or my bankroll or my success or my failures.  My attitude choice is more important than my fame or my pain or what others think or say about me or my position or my circumstances.  Attitudes keep me going or cripple my progress.  Attitude alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope.  When my attitude is right, there is no barrier too high nor valley too deep nor dream too extreme nor challenge too great for me.”

What are your opportunities today?

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The Two “B’s” . . .

Do I have you thinking??  What do you think the two “B’s” are?

Breakfast or Brunch?

Bats and Balls?

Bend or Break?

Biggio and Bagwell?  (OK, that’s only for real baseball fans!)

OK, I’ll stop now!  : -)  For the purposes of this post, my two “B’s” are “better” and “bitter“.

I’ve covered this before, but a recent incident brought it back in memory and it’s OK to sometimes rehash a thought.  With the exception on one little letter, which one are you?  How can changing that one little letter make you a happier person?

No matter if you started following this post because of your own divorce, or you just signed up to make me feel better (and hopefully yourself!), this covers everyone.

Sometimes in those critical moments of making a decision on how to react to a situation, you come to a crossroads, a fork in the path.  You make a choice and it can either make you a happier person, or doubt can lead you to falter, or down a darker pathway.

“The circumstances of life either shrink or stretch your faith.  Either you get better or you get bitter.  The choice is yours.”

I hope that in life, I have made the “better” choices, because choosing to be bitter only hurts you!  In closing, take heart in the positiveness of this old gospel banner:

Doubt see the obstacles.

Faith sees the way.

Doubt sees the darkest night.

Faith sees the way.

Doubt dreads to take a step.

Faith soars on high.

Doubt questions, “Who believes?”

Faith answers, “I”

 

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Short and Sweet – – –

A quick share today – a poem!  Author is unknown but I saw it and wanted to share with my blog family:

 

Of the themes that men have known

One supremely stands alone.

Love is the theme, Love is supreme.

Sweeter it grows, glory bestows.

Bright as the sun, ever it glows.

Love is the theme, The eternal theme.

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