Becoming the best version of yourself

No Wonder I’m Tired At Times, LOL!

In my book I encourage people to get up, get out and get active.  I suggest using a step tracker of some sort to actually see how active (or inactive) you are on a daily basis.

I use the FitBit.  There are many trackers out there, but I love that it tracks my heart rate, my steps and my sleep (which certainly lacks) among other things.

This year my totals were emailed to me and after seeing them – I was exhausted.  My goal is 10,000 steps per day.  Let’s just say I’m more apt to reach and/or surpass those goals in the summer (i.e. nice weather) vs. rainy wintry days.  Still, when you see the grand total, it kinda takes your breath away.

Amongst my goal oriented friends who are in my “group”, I’m usually right in the middle in the number of steps per day.  Not really a competition . . . but then again.

The (constant) leader is a “runner” and since she normally runs five miles a day I am NEVER going to beat her.  (on the few weeks where I have surpassed her, I’ve emailed her to find out if she broke both feet – she is THAT dedicated).

Why I ever accepted her “friend” request via FitBit is beyond me.  WTH was I thinking??

So, here’s how I did in 2017:

2,832,537 steps or,

1,236 miles

435,203 calories burned

So why are my jeans so tight, SIGH????

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Some Things Never Change – – –

Musician John Mayer posted this list of Principles of Adult Behavior on Instagram honoring the passing of John Perry Barrow.  The “Principles of Adult Behavior” itself was written by Barrow, then a lyricist for the Grateful Dead, in 1977 on his 30th birthday.

This post by another “blogger”, was shared with me by a friend who shares my same “thoughts” on behavior.   Really, when you read it, don’t you flash back to things that your parents taught you “back in the day”?

Sometimes the simplest credo’s are the easiest to follow.  My mother always called it “common sense”.  I call it my hope for humanity.  Thanks Carol!!


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Shared By My Pal LB – – –

“Secrets to Inner Peace”

If you can start the day without caffeine,

If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,

If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,

If you can eat the same food everyday and be grateful for it,

If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time,

If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,

If you can conquer tension without medical help,

If you can relax without alcohol,

If you can sleep without the aid of drugs, . . . . . . .


Then You Are Probably The Family Dog!

And you thought I was going to get all spiritual ….

Handle every Stressful situation like a dog.

If you can’t eat it or play with it,

Pee on it and walk away!


Still Laughing Out Loud!! (i.e. share with your men friends/family)

(1)   Fine :   This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2)   Five Minutes :   If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3)   Nothing :   This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4)   Go  Ahead :   This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
(5)   Loud Sigh :   This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6)   That’s Okay :   This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7)   Thanks :   A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm  
and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’ . that will bring on a ‘whatever’).
(8)   Whatever :   Is a woman’s way of saying   F–   YOU!
(9)   Don’t worry about it, I got it :   Another  
dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman  
has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it  herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.
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The Wisdom of Charlie Brown’s Creator!

The  following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the  creator of the ‘Peanuts’ comic strip.

You don’t have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them.

Just read the e-mail straight through, and you’ll get the point.

1. Name  the five wealthiest people in the  world.

2. Name  the last five Heisman trophy winners.

3. Name  the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.

4  Name  ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

5. Name  the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.

6. Name  the last decade’s worth of  World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.

These are no second-rate achievers.

They are the best in their fields.

But the applause dies..

Awards tarnish..

Achievements are forgotten.

Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school..

2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.

3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.

4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.

5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?  The lesson:

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the
most credentials, the most money…or the most awards.


Sorry I Can’t Take Your Call Right Now . . .

Cleaning out the “draft folder” – it’s full of things I find that grab my attention, and I want to post about them, but just need some time to think on it.  So, I copy and paste, and save to “draft”.

Periodically I go back and edit, and post after fleshing out my thoughts.  Sometimes it just speaks for itself, LOL!  Making those positive changes in your life allows you to walk away from the negative nellies.  Cannot say I’d go so far as the quote below, but it did make me chuckle, and I hope you’ll take it in the fun with which I intend by sharing it with you!


Jim’s Daily Awakenings

“I met a remarkable woman the other day who has a unique recorded message on her voicemail.  It says: “This is ___________.  Sorry I missed you.  Leave me a message.  But I need to warn you: I’m making some changes in my life.  If I don’t get back to you, you are one of the changes.”

Let’s face it, many of us could stand to make changes in our lives.  And in order to make these changes, we will need to consider people.

Do you need to add her last two sentences to your voicemail?”

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So How Are Those Resolutions Coming Along??

Had to squeeze in another post for the first month of a new year!!  My sweet friend and constant promoter/follower CS sent this one to me.  Thank you ma’am!!  I really enjoyed reading all the suggestions for “tiny changes”, and even clicked on some of the links within this link.

I’ve been trying to add some of them to my day because I am determined that this is the year of feeling “Positive”!  Moreover, I’ve even taken to sharing posts on Facebook on Fridays with the hashtag:


Can you see the thread in my 2018 Blog posts so far?

When I share with people about my book, and my blog, they often mistake what it’s all about.   They have no interest in reading it, or following it, especially if they’re happily married or have no divorce plans in their future.  At first the lack of support really hurt my feelings, after all, I would certainly go buy a copy of a book if a friend wrote one – regardless of the content.

Yes, the book is definitely related to surviving divorce.  More importantly, it’s for getting yourself back on track, and finding the best version of yourself.  Same with the blog, as it started out about divorce survival, but has totally turned into a place to share positive thoughts, and new beginnings, reminders to take care of yourself AND show compassion to others.

Someday, I hope people will give it a chance instead of assuming they wouldn’t enjoy it, or need it.  It’s been so cathartic for me, and the positive feed back I do receive from those who follow is what keeps me writing and sharing.  So to you followers?  Thank you from the bottom of my typing fingertips!!

2018 for me is going to be about feeling good about life, being happy with my circumstances, being grateful for my blessings, and spreading positivity through the world – at least my world.

I would love for you to join me.  To quote from my alma mater:  “What starts here changes the world”!



Just A Reminder – – –

While cleaning off my refrigerator the other day (note to self, double-sided sticky tape is really hard to get off your stainless steel appliances!!) – I finally took down one of my 2017 objectives.

Before it goes into the recycle bin, it bears repeating one more time – because it’s so pertinent to the “new year” and “new beginnings” I’ve been sharing.  So indulge me and let’s run this one by one more time.

A quote by Brigitte Nicole:

Either they like you or they don’t  Never try to convince somebody of your worth.  If a person doesn’t appreciate you, they don’t deserve you.  Respect yourself and be with people who truly value “you”.

Can I hear an AMEN!


Another “New” Year Philosophy!

“Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending”

If I hadn’t just changed the bottom of my signature line on my email, I would have used this one.  What a profound yet easily followed suggestion?

We especially – at this time of the year, are thinking of changes we want to make to our lives, and resolutions to make our days brighter, healthier, better, happier – all those thoughts.

Truly tho’, except for a mulligan in golf, we rarely get many “do overs”!  Life just doesn’t work that way.

So what I take from this quote is simply that while I can’t change the past, or my actions and thoughts from “before” – I do have all the choices ahead of me of how I move forward.

So here’s to a great new beginning to my brand new ending!  Like it says in the country song of the female lead singer . . . “Can I get a big Hell Yeah?”


Blessings For 2018 To All Of You!!

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