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Becoming the best version of yourself

Wise Words – – –

We have all been greatly challenged the past two years. I, myself, grew up in a house full or faith and religion. I was told, “God never gives you more than you can handle!”

There were times I would roll my eyes and think, If I’m a good person, then why all the challenges?

But’s that life, and no where has it ever been promised that it would be a walk down “easy street”.

I plan on 2022 being a year of growth for me. New address, with a healthier focus on what’s the best for me. I’ve spent a lifetime of giving, something I learned watching my parents. But they also took care of themselves and made decisions taking care of themselves and the family’s needs.

I’m going to take care of myself this year. I’ll receive plenty of “input” whether I need it, request it or want it. But in the end, as my Father used to tell me, always “take care of Number 1”.

Thanks for sharing your time with me.

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As We Head Into 2022 – – –

I am so very grateful for all of you, and your support, and kind comments throughout the years. I started this blog in 2012 with nothing more than a desire to help other women feel better about themselves every day.

You’ve certainly made me a better person.

Keep hoping everyone! See you “next year”!!

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Merry Christmas To All!!

I hope everyone is surrounded by love and laughter, friends and family, near or far, in person or FaceTime/Zoom. Wishing you all a very Merry Merry Christmas. Not my puppy – but just had to share.
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Tis The Season

So, this might be a bit long, but hang in there.

If I take the time and trouble to call and report a problem, or lack of service or lodge a complaint in general, I then try really hard to spend the same amount of time and trouble to call and report a good service, a kind and thoughtful act and issue a compliment. Funny how that works?

Case in point, been traveling back and forth between old home and new home. Tying up loose ends. Right before I left “new” home about 6 weeks ago to drive to TX, our windows were being washed. Part of our annual HOA dues, they get done spring and fall. While taking the hose and it’s reel into the garage to store for winter frigidity, I could not get the connecting piece of hose off the hose bib. Clearly one of the workers had taken it off, to use their own equipment (probably the power washers/painters) and screwed mine back on – crooked. Once you strip those threading things, they never quite screw on tightly or correctly. They’d done it with such force I couldn’t get it off. And do you think I have a wrench?? Ha!!

With the window washer down the street and on his way to my house in a few hours I was irritated to say the least, and sorry for him that he’d have to drag his equipment down below my house to use a second hose bib. I’m on the side of a hill, getting equipment down that decline would be challenging. What could I do? I was leaving. So I wrote a note to him, tacked it into the siding above the hose bib with the small connecter hose piece dangling, apologized for not being able to get it off for him, and told him where the other hose bib was out back. Then off I went to TX.

About a week later, my Ring doorbell camera picks up a person making a delivery to my front door. He rang the bell, I of course was not there, so he left it under the porch cover and started to walk away. He is a FedEx driver. He sees the note, stops and bends down to read it and to my total shock, he stoops down and gets that stuck hose connector piece off. : -0 He lays it down and goes off on his way to his next delivery.

Seriously??? How cool is that?? I’m not there, and he does me a kindness by undoing it – just because he took the time to do a good deed. Now, of course, I become obsessed with how I’m gonna either track him down to thank him, or reach out to FedEx. Have you ever tired to reach out to FedEx during the holidays?? But once I returned back to new house, and retrieved the package off the front porch, I kept the label. My thinking? Somewhere in all those numbers there’s got to be a way to id the driver. I am gonna get a thank you to him – somehow.

Fast forward to yesterday. Another FedEx delivery coming up the driveway. So I nab my “label” I’d saved and approached him. Asked him if he could id a driver thru the numbers on the package. Assured him there was no harm, no foul – that I actually wanna to tell that driver how much I appreciated him. He shyly looks at me and says, that’s my id! I asked him about the hose piece, (because I suppose any driver could claim he’d done the favor, so I wanted to see if he knew what I was talking about). He says he came up the sidewalk to the front porch, saw a paper note tacked to the wall, read it and thought he’d just unscrew it for me.

Woo Hoo – I’d found him!

I told him how much that meant to me, a simple act of kindness and that I would be doing something nice for someone in his honor. I don’t know about him, but this made my day. Oh that we all could be that random and thoughtful. Be kind this holiday season everyone, you never know when something you do will make someone else’s day better.

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Oops – A Couple of Days Late?

I found this the other day and meant to share on December 1st! But then you know how life can get in the way??

So better late than never. A fun “attitude” Advent Calendar for you. Less calories than the ones with candy. Enjoy and Happy December to you all.

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In These Trying Times – – –

And let’s “face” it, these are trying times.

All we wanted to do was get out of 2020, well for me, 2021 has been equally challenging. I have tried my darnedest (can’t believe spell check didn’t flag that?) to face these challenges and keep a good attitude.

I tell ya’, it’s tough to not have the “glass half empty” attitude.

But then I get posts, and notes from you all, and support from friends and I think that heck yeah – – – I can face this and I can change my universe.

We’re close to getting out of 2021, so just letting you know that I’m working on facing it head on. That universe is NOT gonna get me. GRRRRRRR!!!! Who’s with me?

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Gonna Be A Bear – – –

Closing in on my last boxes from the move. Hey, four months, that isn’t too bad is it??? Have had loads of help from family and friends and my handyman. I am seeing the light at the end of this tunnel!

One of the projects today, and unpacked from the last two boxes, are my scrapbooks. I’ve kept adding to them since the mid 80’s – full of my adventures through non-profit work, fundraising and the family highlights.

Going back through a few of them, I ran across one of my favorite pages – something I’d found quite a while ago, not sure where but . . . I love it and had added it to my keepsakes. No idea where it originated, and there’s no author listed on the page so apologies for not giving full credit. Here goes:

GONNA BE A BEAR

In this life I’m a woman. In my next life, I’d like to come back as a bear. When you’re a bear, you get to hibernate. You do nothing but sleep for six months. I could deal with that.

Before you hibernate, you’re supposed to eat yourself stupid. I could deal with that too.

When you’re a girl bear, you birth your children (who are the size of walnuts) while you’re sleeping and wake to partially grown, cute, cuddly cubs. I could definitely deal with that.

If you’re a mama bear, everyone knows you mean business. You swat anyone who bothers your cubs. If your cubs get out of line, you swat them too. I could deal with that.

If you’re a bear, your mate EXPECTS you to wake up growling. He EXPECTS that you will have hairy legs and excess body fat.

Yup, gonna be a bear!

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Have You Ever Felt Useless? (When Trying To Be Useful?)

Was just thinking last night about the number of people that I’ve tried to help out in the past. It’s funny, not everyone who asks your opinion, for your help, for your guidance – really wants it. Is it just small talk? Or do they just not think you’re really smart enough?

When you’ve answered questions, the same way, over and over, and they still don’t listen – why is that? Sometimes I do know the answer. If I don’t know an answer I’ll say so – nothing worse than someone needing to feel smart and making something up and answering incorrectly.

So is it that I don’t project intelligence?

Could it be instead that they just are very poor listeners?

I’m thinking that I’ll keep on trying to be helpful, I’ll keep on answering (when asked) and I will try to never feel useless. I really do like being useful, bet you do too!

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October 1st? How Did THAT Happen?

Wow – what a summer. Selling a house, packing up a house, remodeling a house, moving to that house after the “sell” falls through of the first house. Contractor issues, cancelled house guests, not cancelled house guests, all the grandkids – granted, not at the same time, and BAM! Fall?? I lost my summer.

I’ve had meltdowns, I’ve had my feelings hurt, I’ve had rants, I’ve had disappointments, I’ve had reminders that there are a whole lot of humans out there that would switch their troubles for my life, and I’ve had moments where people made me laugh at the absurdity of it all. (thank you GP! I needed that, you’re a gift that truly NEVER has an expiration date!!)

As I reflect on the summer gone and the fall arriving, I’m reminded of one of my favorite quotes from Lucille Ball. I dug it up in my “saved” favorites to share with you all today, October 1st! Hope you love it as much as I do. Till the next time, here’s you homework assignment!!

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A Work In Progress?

As I continue on this journey of my “new and next chapter”, I really do keep trying to find ways to become more positive every day. And I thought daily workouts were exhausting?

This being “positive” thing is alot of work. Seriously.

The above quote from Mahatma Gandhi sounds like it should be easy to accomplish. But as the title says, I am a work in progress, a WIP!

So here’s my new “thing” to try. As I focus on what it takes to become a more positive person, and find my harmony in life, I’m going to try only certain times of the day to allow those “this sh*t is driving me crazy” thoughts to enter my head. I have picked the times I’m taking my dogs on their walks.

I can vent to the pups, they are very understanding, they are very empathetic and they think I hung the moon. In other words, I can do very little wrong in their eyes – except maybe NOT take them on dog walks.

I will allow myself to have those “what’s your problem universe? I’m NOT a bad person and I do NOT deserve this” thoughts only when I’m outside enjoying beautiful fall weather (here in the mountains) and strolls with 150 lbs of dogs. I’ll get it out of my system, I’ll scowl a few times, I’ll mentally skewer the contractors who do not show up when promised, I’ll stomp through the falling leaves, maybe even kick a few pine cones that the squirrels have decimated. I think I might be on to something.

Or, I could just take a trip to the Virgin Islands? Hmmmmmm?

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