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John Wooden

Possessing an unparalleled humility, legendary college basketball coachJohn Wooden used his patented “Pyramid of Success” to give his young, impressionable players the tools to succeed at both basketball and life. Wooden turned a fledgling UCLA athletics program into a powerhouse that won 10 NCAA national titles, and all the while he maintained that true success wasn’t based on accolades, but rather on being your best self. This quote speaks to Wooden’s ideology; he lived life by what he called a “Seven Point Creed,” which shunned egoism and prioritized helping others. It’s a reminder that the greatest reward isn’t necessarily wealth or fame, but being there for others, regardless of whether you receive anything in return.

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So, That Funny Story I Promised??

This morning was a typical morning, but what is typical at my age? And what about that funny story I promised at the end of the last post??

Well . . . morning started as usual, up – make bed, no wait, don’t make bed cuz it’s housekeeping day. Get down the clean sheets for them to use, and head to laundry room (with dogs in tow) to put sheets in the washer. The day has begun, it’s just those things that misdirect us.

After the dog walk, and feeding them, I remember that I need to change the battery in the RING outside spotlight camera. It’s been sitting there in the charger and ready, and I’ve been getting the alerts for two days, so OK! Put the battery in my hand and head to the garage for the ladder. But the dogs are done eating so I pick up their bowls to put away ON the way to the garage. Passing the laundry room I notice the sheets are done in the wash and need to move to the dryer. Put the battery down, because who can remove sheets from the wash with a battery in your hand because like our mother’s taught us they’ll wrinkle much less in the dryer if we give them a good shake . . . right?

Shake the sheets, put in the dryer and head to the garage. I was going to the garage, right? WHY? Oh yeah, ladder. But oops, back to laundry room to get battery I’d laid down, then to garage to get ladder to go downstairs and out back to change battery. This time I put the battery in my pocket because surely I can’t mislay it if it’s in my pocket?

Laughing at myself, I think, I should share my “elder brain” morning with my blog family about how distracted I can get, it’ll be good for a laugh, but WAIT!!!! I never sent that summer report blog that I wrote several days ago and was going to send that next morning (because we’re all more awake in the morning) and I must’ve gotten distracted and . . . GRRRR!!

So the battery gets changed, I put up the ladder, go to the laptop and send the previous blog this morning, and will wait to send this new one in a few more mornings . . . IF I don’t get too distracted by (insert shrugging shoulder emoji here as you read, LOL!!!) life. BIG SIGH!!

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Been A While – – –

Howdy everyone. It’s been a while, my apologies. It’s summer and with that comes craziness. June was busy getting house ready for summer, finishing up the last of the “punch list” for the remodel but with different vendors since the original contractor entered the big black hole and disappeared. Yup, that means some things I paid for twice. But hey – – – you gotta get D-O-N-E Done!

Gardens were planted, I had my annual “discussion” with the neighborhood HOA’s irrigation guy about when I want the water turned on. The hose, liquid fertilizer and me – I’m determined!! At least there was no other snow like Memorial Day weekend. UGH!!!

June also brought joy!! I found a horse to lease and have begun riding again. Baby steps – slowly working myself back up to jumping “form” again. I kinda smile alot right now, some people here will “get it”. My family doesn’t, but it is what it is. It brings me great joy!!

July brought a trip back to the old Texas home state to babysit, then back here to the mountains to prepare for the family’s arrival. 4 extra adults, 5 extra kids 9 and under, and 2 extra dogs. We were full. The beginning of a family tradition every summer – the “gathering” in the mountains. Legos were everywhere – do not walk barefoot downstairs in the playroom, LOL!! A few disruptions, the blending of several households worth of behavior and “rules” will always bring up challenges but we all survived. Not only important for my two sons to have time to reconnect, but for cousins to “know” their cousins.

Now we’re in August – how did THAT happen?? More houseguests will arrive this month, flowers are still thriving thanks to Miracle Grow on the end of the hose spout, five new trees, one HOA (3rd annual) party in the front yard is in the books. Hiking, live music, cookouts with friends, workout classes, books and needlepoint and – let’s not forget the rebirth of the equestrian life.

I truly hope that even though you’ve not heard from me in a while, that you are also busy enjoying your summer time, your family and friends, your hobbies, your animals and most of all, yourself. And . . . can college football be too far behind???

Hugs from the mountains, y’all.

(PS – funny story, next blog . . .)

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Hoping You’ve Had A Nice Weekend – – –

Now here’s a little chuckle to take you into the new week!!

Have an awesome week everyone!! : -)

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A Thought To Remember – – –

(Sorry for the blurriness, I never claimed to be “tech savvy”, LOL!!)

When I saw this, it really struck a chord because I have been around this alot in my adult years.

As a child growing up, I was surrounded by love and positive reinforcement. I was praised when I did something right, and corrected when I did something wrong. BUT . . . the correction was never harsh and it always came with guidance and suggestions of a better way.

As a society we have become VERY “judge’y”, we don’t listen to others, it’s our way or the highway, we’re so sure we are right. Social media “shares” are distracting, hurtful, full of opinions and certainly rarely verified.

Shaking up my life and moving several states “over” has certainly opened my eyes to the “comfort zone” I was living in. Have I become a kinder more compassionate person? Hope so. Do I still judge? Yes, sometimes I can’t help myself. But I also try to step back and re-evaluate when necessary.

Thanks for letting me share today!! Almost July, where did June go??

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It’s Been A Rough Week . . .

This quote popped up on my feed last week, and I was going to share it, then like everyone else felt, the world went sideways in Uvalde.

I meant to research WHO Noah is, or was, then did not get it done. Will still do it, but for this weekend, I’m going to try to enjoy the good things out there, while praying for healing and recovery and a better path forward for our nation.

You might have to read it several times, as I did. Each time sinking a bit deeper into it. Have a good weekend everyone.

“But nothing can save you. Not your friends, not the best Fred Astaire musical you’ve ever seen- the grace of it, not your mother’s beauty, not a line from a letter you find at the bottom of a drawer, not a magazine or the next day. Nothing can save you. And you stand in the moonlight and a sweetness comes off the top of the trees, and the fence around the yard seals you off from the dark and you can’t breathe. It is all so familiar and possible. It is too simple that there is this much good in the world and you don’t know how to have it. And it makes you wonder when it was you lost your place. Then you catch a breeze, so warm and ripe, it makes you hope that someone will come who also cannot save you, but who will think you are worth saving.” – from Noah’s wall- 1/31/04

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It’s Monday, ‘Nuff Said . . .

Do I really need say more???

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Happy Mother’s Day To All Moms!

I had an awesome Mom. I lost her in 2019 just one month shy of her 101st birthday. She was an East Texas born firecracker her whole life. The good parts of me are attributable to her, she taught by example. Though I knew in my mind that the end was near, my heart chose to believe I would have her forever.

The photo today is from my first time being a Mother. My eldest, and as he refers to himself often, #1 son. Being a Mom is like no other experience you’ll ever have. The highest of the highs and the lowest of the lows, and sometimes both of those in the same 24 hours.

An experience I would never trade, even in the lowest of the lows because the highest of the highs are just plain magical. Now watching those that made me a Mom, being parents themselves? Well, it’s just the best.

So, here’s hoping that all of you have a most amazing Mother’s Day in 2022, and that you are shown the well deserved appreciation for having the title of “Mom” that you deserve.

Happy Happy Mother’s Day! : -)

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More Food For Thought – – –

The donkey told the tiger, “The grass is blue.” 

The tiger replied, “No, the grass is green .”

The discussion became heated, and the two decided to submit the issue to arbitration, so they approached the lion. 

As they approached the lion on his throne, the donkey started screaming: ′′Your Highness, isn’t it true that the grass is blue?” 

The lion replied: “If you believe it is true, the grass is blue.” 

The donkey rushed forward and continued: ′′The tiger disagrees with me, contradicts me and annoys me. Please punish him.”

The king then declared: ′′The tiger will be punished with 3 days of silence.” 

The donkey jumped with joy and went on his way, content and repeating ′′The grass is blue, the grass is blue…” 

The tiger asked the lion, “Your Majesty, why have you punished me, after all, the grass is green?” 

The lion replied, ′′You’ve known and seen the grass is green.”

The tiger asked, ′′So why do you punish me?” 

The lion replied, “That has nothing to do with the question of whether the grass is blue or green. The punishment is because it is degrading for a brave, intelligent creature like you to waste time arguing with an ass, and on top of that, you came and bothered me with that question just to validate something you already knew was true!”

The biggest waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who doesn’t care about truth or reality, but only the victory of his beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on discussions that make no sense. There are people who, for all the evidence presented to them, do not have the ability to understand. Others who are blinded by ego, hatred and resentment, and the only thing that they want is to be right even if they aren’t. 

When IGNORANCE SCREAMS, intelligence moves on.

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As Winter Thaws Here – – –

Hope springs eternal. Have a blessed Easter/Passover and know that new beginnings are always possible, even in the harshest of circumstances! Hugs to you all from the mountains!!
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