Becoming the best version of yourself

Still Laughing Out Loud!! (i.e. share with your men friends/family)

(1)   Fine :   This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2)   Five Minutes :   If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3)   Nothing :   This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4)   Go  Ahead :   This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
(5)   Loud Sigh :   This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6)   That’s Okay :   This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7)   Thanks :   A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm  
and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’ . that will bring on a ‘whatever’).
(8)   Whatever :   Is a woman’s way of saying   F–   YOU!
(9)   Don’t worry about it, I got it :   Another  
dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman  
has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it  herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.
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The Wisdom of Charlie Brown’s Creator!

The  following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the  creator of the ‘Peanuts’ comic strip.

You don’t have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them.

Just read the e-mail straight through, and you’ll get the point.

1. Name  the five wealthiest people in the  world.

2. Name  the last five Heisman trophy winners.

3. Name  the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.

4  Name  ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

5. Name  the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.

6. Name  the last decade’s worth of  World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.

These are no second-rate achievers.

They are the best in their fields.

But the applause dies..

Awards tarnish..

Achievements are forgotten.

Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school..

2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.

3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.

4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.

5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?  The lesson:

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the
most credentials, the most money…or the most awards.


Sorry I Can’t Take Your Call Right Now . . .

Cleaning out the “draft folder” – it’s full of things I find that grab my attention, and I want to post about them, but just need some time to think on it.  So, I copy and paste, and save to “draft”.

Periodically I go back and edit, and post after fleshing out my thoughts.  Sometimes it just speaks for itself, LOL!  Making those positive changes in your life allows you to walk away from the negative nellies.  Cannot say I’d go so far as the quote below, but it did make me chuckle, and I hope you’ll take it in the fun with which I intend by sharing it with you!


Jim’s Daily Awakenings

“I met a remarkable woman the other day who has a unique recorded message on her voicemail.  It says: “This is ___________.  Sorry I missed you.  Leave me a message.  But I need to warn you: I’m making some changes in my life.  If I don’t get back to you, you are one of the changes.”

Let’s face it, many of us could stand to make changes in our lives.  And in order to make these changes, we will need to consider people.

Do you need to add her last two sentences to your voicemail?”

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So How Are Those Resolutions Coming Along??

Had to squeeze in another post for the first month of a new year!!  My sweet friend and constant promoter/follower CS sent this one to me.  Thank you ma’am!!  I really enjoyed reading all the suggestions for “tiny changes”, and even clicked on some of the links within this link.

I’ve been trying to add some of them to my day because I am determined that this is the year of feeling “Positive”!  Moreover, I’ve even taken to sharing posts on Facebook on Fridays with the hashtag:


Can you see the thread in my 2018 Blog posts so far?

When I share with people about my book, and my blog, they often mistake what it’s all about.   They have no interest in reading it, or following it, especially if they’re happily married or have no divorce plans in their future.  At first the lack of support really hurt my feelings, after all, I would certainly go buy a copy of a book if a friend wrote one – regardless of the content.

Yes, the book is definitely related to surviving divorce.  More importantly, it’s for getting yourself back on track, and finding the best version of yourself.  Same with the blog, as it started out about divorce survival, but has totally turned into a place to share positive thoughts, and new beginnings, reminders to take care of yourself AND show compassion to others.

Someday, I hope people will give it a chance instead of assuming they wouldn’t enjoy it, or need it.  It’s been so cathartic for me, and the positive feed back I do receive from those who follow is what keeps me writing and sharing.  So to you followers?  Thank you from the bottom of my typing fingertips!!

2018 for me is going to be about feeling good about life, being happy with my circumstances, being grateful for my blessings, and spreading positivity through the world – at least my world.

I would love for you to join me.  To quote from my alma mater:  “What starts here changes the world”!



Another “New” Year Philosophy!

“Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending”

If I hadn’t just changed the bottom of my signature line on my email, I would have used this one.  What a profound yet easily followed suggestion?

We especially – at this time of the year, are thinking of changes we want to make to our lives, and resolutions to make our days brighter, healthier, better, happier – all those thoughts.

Truly tho’, except for a mulligan in golf, we rarely get many “do overs”!  Life just doesn’t work that way.

So what I take from this quote is simply that while I can’t change the past, or my actions and thoughts from “before” – I do have all the choices ahead of me of how I move forward.

So here’s to a great new beginning to my brand new ending!  Like it says in the country song of the female lead singer . . . “Can I get a big Hell Yeah?”


New Year’s Eve – A Favorite . . .

. . . and boy am I in the minority.  I like to go someplace festive and celebrate.  Most of my friends want to stay in – I stay in all the time so to me, I want to be with happy, fun people to welcome in the New Year.

Think of all the possibilities for all the wonderful things that might happen to you in 2018?

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it, with a glass of bubbly in my hand!

I didn’t reach my goal of 100 followers by year’s end – bummer.  So if you know of just one friend you could share this blog with?  I bet I can get to 100 in 2018!  What are your 2018 goals?

See you on the flip side, love my followers – CHEERS!!


Happy Holiday Weekend To All –


With much love and gratitude to my followers for the past five years, I send you a gift of peace and joy over the next few days.  No matter your celebration choice, know that you mean the world to me.


The Holi”daze” Is Ramping Up – – –

So here’s a little “giggle” to put a smile on your exhausted face!

(If the link doesn’t work here, copy and paste in your browser!)      And remember – – –

Don’t let the craziness of the season cause you to forget the real reason we celebrate!

And just a few extra thoughts for this year:

If you run outta wrapping paper, recycle some newspaper or use a cute bag!

If you forgot a gift and it’s last minute – give a “one free lunch after the New Year just so we can visit” IOU!

If you have a “hard to buy for” relative that already has everything?  A photobook brings joy all year ’round.   From the grandkids to past adventures you’ve shared, it’s a gift that keeps on giving!

If you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, find a Holiday musical program at a church nearby, attend and just – – – listen!

If you want to feel festive “for free”? – gather the family, some hot chocolate, and drive through the neighborhoods with holiday lights a’glow!   Wave at your neighbor and spread good cheer!

If you want to do good and don’t know how or where, find an organization or a church that offers “adopt a family” and take your kids shopping for someone else who may not have a bright holiday this year.

If you shop in bulk at Sam’s or Costco, or just need to clean out your pantry – donate to your local Food Bank!

Spread the warmth and glow of the season, be the difference in a person’s day, make a change and be the change.   Happiest of Holidays to all of you from me!

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The Season of Thanksgiving!

Are we still in it?

Logic would tell me that we should be in it all year round, it’s just more visible this time of the year?

I saw a quote the other day:  “Gratitude is the Attitude that sets the Altitude for living”, by James MacDonald.

His premise is that you can live in the depressing low-lands of the world, or have a high-altitude attitude!  Sounds good, but is it really that easy?

He says that living in this high-altitude attitude is up where the air is clean, the sun is shining and the future is bright, where life soars above and refuses to focus on the negative.   I jokingly think that all I have to do to find that attitude, is drive to the mountains to get that feeling, but seriously . . .

How nice would it be to have that attitude 365 days of each year?  How refreshing would it be to surround yourself with people who have that attitude as well?

They say change begins with you, and I personally happen to see the benefit to living a higher altitude attitude.  I’m “over” the negative nellies who are so unhappy that they choose to bring you down as well.  I’m sorry for them, I do empathize with them, but do not want to be around them.

It’s a constant effort – but so worth it.  I am thankful for all the positiveness around me; I am thankful that 2017 has been so much happier than 2016.  That feels so odd to say since 2016 was the year I accomplished my goal of publishing my book, and became an Amazon Best Selling author.

I am hopeful that we can all live a season of Thanksgiving – all year round.  The view in that higher altitude is pretty darned spectacular!

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Complaining – It’s Everywhere . . .

Recently I wrote about changing your attitudes, being more positive!  Safe to say, I have less than positive feelings about complaining!

People who complain alot – do they really think that’s going to change anything?  I’ve admitted in the past that I used to REALLY complain about bad drivers.  EGAD – where are these people from?  But I have made a concerted effort lately to not let it rattle me as much.

(Is that called “practice what you preach”?)

Are you hurting the other person?  Nope.  Are you changing the other person’s behavior?  Most likely not.  Complaining hurts me; it leads to anger, headaches, bitterness, negativity, raised blood pressure, and I’m pretty sure my eyes cross and I get those frown wrinkles between my brows.  Botox anyone?

I found a definition of the action:  “Complaining is expressing dissatisfaction with a circumstance that is not wrong and about which I’m doing nothing to correct.”

Just because it’s wrong in my opinion, does it necessarily make it wrong?  Deep thoughts to leave you with:

Criticism involves people; complaining involves circumstances.”

In the season of Thanksgiving, definitely something to be aware of as we go about our busy daily lives.


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