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YAY – February!

Lordy, get me outta January!! Though it’s still cold, there are more sunny days and I am so grateful. 

Speaking of being grateful, I stumbled across this article the other day and thought, since many of us have run into this personality trait, it would be a great share. For me, reading it made me grateful to no longer being in the sphere of a man suffering from this. (Women display it too, not male bashing)

Give it a look see, and let me know if you’ve tried any of these hints. Heaven help me that I ever run into this again, but now at least I have a menu of things to choose from. Read and enjoy your February. 

Link: https://kimsaeed.com/2020/08/12/how-to-make-a-narcissist-miserable-12-things-they-hate/

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After Last Night’s Presidential Debate – – –

I don’t know many people who didn’t watch it . . . so I’ve been holding this post for a time I thought was appropriate, and after last night, I think it’s “time” to share.

No matter your political leanings, IMHO, last night was a circus, and not in a fun way.  Today I search for a kind of peace that may not be possible, but this tidbit shared with me by my buddy Diva J is certainly needed.

I hope you too can find some peace amongst the chaos that has been 2020.

 

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Ahhhh – Summertime, Summertime, Sum Sum Summertime!

(hopefully the tune hit your brain, LOL??)

One thing the start of the pandemic, the shutdowns, etc did for many was to help them clear all their “lists” of things to watch on every TV watching service available.

Whether it’s a DVR, a streaming service, a Netflix DVD – we were watching a multitude of things to fill the time.  Back in January it was something happening elsewhere.   Then it hit here.  What do you do when you hunker down?

TV programming!

I jotted down this from one of the many shows I watched, then forgot about it.   I uncovered it the other day and remembered I wanted to share it.   It made me chuckle.   We all need a good chuckle every now and again, right?

Not saying this is how you should approach life, but hey – if the shoe fits . . . . ?

“Not dealing with things is my preferred way of dealing with things”!

Wish I could remember which show I heard it on, I watched so many but there you have it.   Hope it brought a slight chuckle to you today.  (I think the heat is getting to me!)

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A Thought For Life – – –

I heard this quote the other day and it was like a “message” was being sent to me directly.

Family, friends, neighbors, people in general – sometimes they irk you.  You wonder how can they not see it?  You get cranky, you might even think you should “get even” – but what does that solve?  Doesn’t change them, their actions, one bit.

So next time you get REALLY irritated, think of this:

“LOVE ISN’T BASED ON A SCORECARD”

It might help.

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Let’s Try This Again – – –

I’m going to try this again.   For some reason, I copy the link and it just does NOT want to go into my post.   Fingers crossed, I never promised to be “techie”, ha ha!!  But Copy and Paste has always worked in the past.

If it doesn’t work, you can try a Google search for the author:  John P Weiss and it was posted on October 24, 2019.

The does and don’ts of polite conversation are always things to remember, especially these days of people being overly anxious and stirred up.  Thanks for your patience.

 

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The Art Of Conversation – – –

My son sent me this a while back.  I’m hoping that it wasn’t necessarily directed at me, but more a share of things that irritate all of us.  Yes, I have some friends that do this, constantly interrupt and not let me finish my thoughts or my sentence.

At least now tho’, I am trying really hard to make sure I’m not also “one of those”.  Polite conversation, after the spring of social distancing we’ve all had, just being together is going to be more important than ever.  Let’s all be more aware of “listening” first.

 

https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0?ui=2&ik=9c114b4ccd&attid=0.1.1&permmsgid=msg-f:1663690015649151240&th=17169d412f21b908&view=att&disp=safe

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Final Thoughts For A New Decade #9 – – –

I AM ENOUGH!

So, . . . it’s bolded and capitalized.

Yes I am.

If you’ve never lived or worked or associated yourself with a person or persons who do not think you are enough?  Lucky you.

If you have, I’m sorry.

I have.

It’s taken me a long time to appreciate my worth as a person, as a friend, as a member of a family unit.

How are you feeling today?  Are you feeling like you are enough?  My hopes for all of us is that we continue to put ourselves in the best environments and situations where we are able to realize our full potential, and grow to know we are enough.

As the “social distancing” continues, we’ve been given the gift of time to do more self reflection.  Be safe everyone.

Glow from within my fiends.  You are enough!

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Thoughts For A New Decade #8 – – –

I have the right to express my needs honestly

“Honestly” – that’s an interesting way of putting this thought.  Does not doing it honestly mean you alter those needs because no one around you is going to help fulfill those needs unless you make it easy for them?  Or does it mean you alter your needs to fit their needs, their timing, their opinions of your needs?

Doesn’t it really just mean to be yourself, take care of yourself, and if you need something more from a family member, a friend, a partner you are honest in opening up to them?

My Father used to say that honesty is the best policy.  Bet you heard that one too when you were growing up and learning to be your own person.

If those that you surround yourself are too busy filling their own needs to concern themselves with any of yours, maybe it is time to alter the way you seek to fulfill your personal needs with those same people.  Maybe they are just totally unaware that you need a bit more attention.

And perhaps if you make decisions about those close to you without giving them the opportunity to learn of your needs, and your frustrations, it’s being unfair to them.   Or maybe you need to seek out a more caring and thoughtful group of people to be around.

This one is a tough one.  Lately I have begun to be more vocal in the things I need, seek, in friends and family.  If something bothers me, I’m trying to be more “honest” and open about it, JUST IN CASE those friends and family do not realize.

And then . . . if they chose not to care, I have my answer.

 

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Thoughts For A New Decade #5 – – –

“Nobody has to agree with me”

In this year of an “election”, boy is this something that resonates on a daily, even hourly basis.  Remember the old rule, don’t talk politics or religion at the table?

How can we help it?  It’s in our face  ALL. DAY. LONG!

It’s to the point of having to “pause” the posts on some of my FB friends (are you wondering if it’s you?); it’s gotten really really ugly.  How can it not?  Look at the example that is being set by leadership.  If they can sling mud 24/7 on the national media, why can’t we?

Because it’s exhausting and just plain rude behavior.  What ever happened to kinder, gentler?

Well, JMHO but it’s really OK to accept that nobody has to agree with you.   It’s your opinion, you have a right to it; I have an opinion too, but please don’t try to change mine.   We don’t have to agree, but the ugliness really needs to stop.

I’m OK you don’t agree with me, you don’t have to.   But I will pause you . . .

 

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When People Get You Down?

Be the opposite.   Be that person in someone’s life that puts a smile on their face and in their heart.

The older I get, the more I notice there are some really grumpy people out there.  Yes, maybe life has dealt them alot of sh*t, but they are never going to feel better about their life by making someone else’s miserable.  Neither will you.

I read once that Jacquelyn Kennedy was a person who would look you in the eye while listening to you, and never scan the room for the “better deal”.  She was known to make you feel like the ONLY person in that room.

Every body is a somebody!  Don’t ever be that person that makes them feel “less than”.

There’s a wonderful company out of Colorado that produces a great line of tees and hoodies (as well as other products).  Great fabrics but greater message.   If you get a chance, head on over to:  “Be Good To People” and check out their products.  I met them one summer in Colorado and have been following their story (as well as purchasing their product line).

What a simple message.  I love this message and the family owned business that promotes it.

So this week?  Be good to people and make everybody feel like somebody!!

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