I have the right to express my needs honestly
“Honestly” – that’s an interesting way of putting this thought. Does not doing it honestly mean you alter those needs because no one around you is going to help fulfill those needs unless you make it easy for them? Or does it mean you alter your needs to fit their needs, their timing, their opinions of your needs?
Doesn’t it really just mean to be yourself, take care of yourself, and if you need something more from a family member, a friend, a partner you are honest in opening up to them?
My Father used to say that honesty is the best policy. Bet you heard that one too when you were growing up and learning to be your own person.
If those that you surround yourself are too busy filling their own needs to concern themselves with any of yours, maybe it is time to alter the way you seek to fulfill your personal needs with those same people. Maybe they are just totally unaware that you need a bit more attention.
And perhaps if you make decisions about those close to you without giving them the opportunity to learn of your needs, and your frustrations, it’s being unfair to them. Or maybe you need to seek out a more caring and thoughtful group of people to be around.
This one is a tough one. Lately I have begun to be more vocal in the things I need, seek, in friends and family. If something bothers me, I’m trying to be more “honest” and open about it, JUST IN CASE those friends and family do not realize.
And then . . . if they chose not to care, I have my answer.
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