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Commitment?

It’s been a long time since I committed “rant” to “paper”, LOL!! Have really tried to be positive, upbeat, uplifting – you get the drift. Want to be a point of light, want to make all my followers feel good. Heck, I want to feel good. : -)

But every once in a while, the evil takes over, and a good old fashioned rant can clear the air – maybe?

So let’s talk about commitment, and not the kind between a “couple”. My past has already shown that to be a losing effort for me.

I’m referring to friends, associates, groups, meetings, plans, etc.

If you say you’re going to do something, DUH, then do it . . .

If you say you’re going to show up for something, then show up . . .

If you say you’re going to attend, and then don’t (PLEASE) let the person who invited you know? I don’t understand. Sorry, just don’t. What happened to manners?

I know you think one person (you) backing out won’t make a difference, because you’re only considering yourself and how that might not mess up the “plan”. But if every person in the group only thinks that their one “cancellation” won’t impact, and 90% of the group decide not to come – well then YES, it does have an impact.

So, before you skewer me – yes I know life happens and sometimes your plan has to be altered through no fault of your own – but maybe it’s just my karma? Maybe I’m trying too hard to create events and opportunities to be together and I just need to give it a rest? Because if I look back at the last few weeks and the few events that were affected by cancellations and no shows, it could be a telling sign that people just don’t wanna hang with me?

But as soon as I quit inviting certain people to certain gatherings I’ll be accused of being a “mean girl” and leaving them out? Total “no win” situation. So the solution? Just quit trying? I don’t know, therefore: The Rant.

We’ve forgotten how to be polite. We’ve forgotten the manners we were brought up with. We’ve forgotten that our decisions do have an effect on others who made the plans and have to decide do we just start pulling chairs away from the table or cancel all together?

As I sit here and type this, I wonder whether or not I should really hit “publish” – and if I don’t you will have never seen this. And if I do, I’ve rolled the dice and decided to take a chance that just maybe you’ve experienced the same dilemma and I’m not alone in this? Because it’s beginning to feel a bit personal.

Or maybe it’s a bit like Sally Fields and her Oscar win, when from the podium she was saying, “You like me, you really like me!” and I just need a bit of empathy . . . (and kudos BTW to the people who DID show up, thank you!)

OK – Rant over. Next couple of weeks I’ll be back to the positive, upbeat and uplifting gal!!

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“That’s A Given” – – –

Well, you haven’t heard from me for a while. Most of the summer I think we were all trying to figure out the “new normal”, if in fact we can even use the word “normal”.

I’ve lost people from the “dam”demic; I’ve been exposed twice but never came down with it. Does this make me feel like just holding my breath? Yes, so right.

Did the whole election process throw us for a loop on top of the health crisis? Yes, more than ever. Are we looking for a leader to lead, regardless of party affiliation? A clear winner? GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!

I vote for a soccer Mom, they get the job done.

A friend forwarded the video from years ago of “We Are The World”. I tried to connect it to this post – SIGH! Technologically challenged today. The whole WordPress.com site has changed their format so – it will take me a while to get comfortable with it again. I don’t like change . . . “That’s A Given”.

The sentiment in that song from yesteryear is still the same. We Are The World – and we can do a better job. And it starts with me/you/us.

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After Last Night’s Presidential Debate – – –

I don’t know many people who didn’t watch it . . . so I’ve been holding this post for a time I thought was appropriate, and after last night, I think it’s “time” to share.

No matter your political leanings, IMHO, last night was a circus, and not in a fun way.  Today I search for a kind of peace that may not be possible, but this tidbit shared with me by my buddy Diva J is certainly needed.

I hope you too can find some peace amongst the chaos that has been 2020.

 

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Love When My Followers “Share”! Thanks Diva J

I want to age like sea glass.
Smoothed by tides,
but not broken.
I want my hard edges to soften.
I want to ride the waves
and go with the flow.
I want to catch a wave
and let it carry me
to where I belong.
I want to be picked up
and held gently by
those who delight in my
well earned patina and
appreciate the changes I went
through to achieve that beauty.
I want to enjoy the journey
and always remember that if
you give the ocean something
breakable it will turn it into
something beautiful.
I want to age like sea glass.

~ Bernadette Noll ~

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Will We Ever Be Open To Travel Again?

Several “posts” ago, I shared an article about the difficulty of traveling if you’re “on your own”.  It’s not just an issue for single people, some married ladies (my Mom was one of them) would love to travel but they’re held back by a spouse that does not share the passion for adventure.

I found the article below online through Travel & Leisure and thought it definitely inspiring and encouraging.   Most of their “points” are common sense, but it’s always good to remind ourselves of some of them.

When the world re-opens (“praying hands emoji”), I hope many of us will once again answer the call to “wander” a bit while we’re still “able” to get around.

Thanks for following and as usual, stay safe out there.

 

https://www.travelandleisure.com/trip-ideas/senior-travel/senior-travel-mistakes-to-avoid?did=548994-20200809&utm_campaign=just-in_newsletter&utm_source=travelandleisure.com&utm_medium=email&utm_content=080920&cid=548994&mid=38613043959

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As Travel Opens Up More?

I’ve been wanting to share this, but during the pandemic crisis, and shutdowns for the travel industry, it wasn’t the right time.   Now that things are easing a bit, and people are feeling safer (as a result of going stir crazy no doubt) I am pulling this “share” out to share.

It was an article I read in the AARP magazine that really made me realize I’m not the only one who sees how much it is a “couples world”.   No where is this more obvious than in restaurant dining and travel.  Those two things were really hit hard starting last Spring when the world shut down.

To quote the opening of the article by Christina Ianzito:

“The number of women wanting female-only trips has skyrocketed in recent years, with companies like Damesly, Whoa Travel and Living Big Travel devoted entirely to such excursions.  Other long-standing tour operators including Intrepid Travel and Road Scholar, now provide these kinds of trips in addition to their other ones.

Some women say they’d feel like a fifth wheel being single among a bunch of couples, and that a wonderful camaraderie develops when guys aren’t around.”

For years I’ve had one very special friend who travels alone or with other women friends (looking at you LL!) and has not let being alone hold her adventurous spirit hold her back!  What a fab role model she is to her three adult daughters.  What an inspiration she is to me!

So if wanderlust is knocking on your door, go check out the above companies (also including REI Women’s Adventures) and read up on popular “women-only” getaways!!  Maybe I’ll see you one day soon!!

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Ahhhh – Summertime, Summertime, Sum Sum Summertime!

(hopefully the tune hit your brain, LOL??)

One thing the start of the pandemic, the shutdowns, etc did for many was to help them clear all their “lists” of things to watch on every TV watching service available.

Whether it’s a DVR, a streaming service, a Netflix DVD – we were watching a multitude of things to fill the time.  Back in January it was something happening elsewhere.   Then it hit here.  What do you do when you hunker down?

TV programming!

I jotted down this from one of the many shows I watched, then forgot about it.   I uncovered it the other day and remembered I wanted to share it.   It made me chuckle.   We all need a good chuckle every now and again, right?

Not saying this is how you should approach life, but hey – if the shoe fits . . . . ?

“Not dealing with things is my preferred way of dealing with things”!

Wish I could remember which show I heard it on, I watched so many but there you have it.   Hope it brought a slight chuckle to you today.  (I think the heat is getting to me!)

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“Be His Light In The World”

Period.

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A Thought For Life – – –

I heard this quote the other day and it was like a “message” was being sent to me directly.

Family, friends, neighbors, people in general – sometimes they irk you.  You wonder how can they not see it?  You get cranky, you might even think you should “get even” – but what does that solve?  Doesn’t change them, their actions, one bit.

So next time you get REALLY irritated, think of this:

“LOVE ISN’T BASED ON A SCORECARD”

It might help.

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Let’s Try This Again – – –

I’m going to try this again.   For some reason, I copy the link and it just does NOT want to go into my post.   Fingers crossed, I never promised to be “techie”, ha ha!!  But Copy and Paste has always worked in the past.

If it doesn’t work, you can try a Google search for the author:  John P Weiss and it was posted on October 24, 2019.

The does and don’ts of polite conversation are always things to remember, especially these days of people being overly anxious and stirred up.  Thanks for your patience.

 

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