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Becoming the best version of yourself

3.  Don’t be afraid to live your truth.

3.  Don’t be afraid to live your truth.

“Tell yourself, “I am ENOUGH” anytime you begin to feel otherwise.  Accept your flaws.  Admit your mistakes.  Don’t hide and don’t lie.

Deal with the truth—your truth—every step of the way.  Learn the lessons, endure the consequences of reality, and move forward.  Your truth won’t penalize you.  Your mistakes won’t hurt you.  Only your denial and cover-up will.  Flawed and vulnerable people are powerful and strong.  Liars and phonies are not.  Every beautiful human being is made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions and finished with trials and errors.

So keep reminding yourself that you are YOU for a reason, and that the journey is worth it.  Ignore the distractions.  Listen to your own inner voice.  Mind your own business.  Keep your best wishes and your biggest desires close to your heart, and dedicate time to them every day.  Don’t be scared to walk alone sometimes, and don’t be scared to enjoy it.  And don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama or negativity derail you.”

 

This is really good for me.  For years I let other’s negativity and their need for drama trauma get in the way of being true to myself.  There was nothing wrong with me; I was a valuable person with a big heart and a willingness to always help others.

These days I appreciate and value those qualities in myself.  Sure I have many flaws and have made many silly mistakes.  I’m OK with that, I’m human!

But the important thing I’ve learned?

I AM GOOD ENOUGH!!  Say that to yourself, mean it, embrace it, live it and be thankful everyday for being you!

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2.  Don’t be afraid to trust yourself.

2.  Don’t be afraid to trust yourself.

“You may not be where you want to be yet, but you’ve also come a long way from where you once were.  Appreciate how far you’ve come.  You’ve been through a lot, but you’ve grown a lot too.  Give yourself credit for your strength and resilience.  You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself going forward, not because you’ve always made the right choices, but because you’ve survived and grown from the bad ones.

Good things take time, and you’re getting there.  So don’t allow yourself to be crippled by stress and self-loathing.  Everything is only as it is.  There’s no reason to let it cripple you.  Remind yourself to breathe—to let every moment be what it’s going to be.  What’s meant to be will come your way, and what’s not will fall away.  And remember that life’s best gifts may not always be wrapped the way you expect.”

 

Boy is this a good one for me.  For years I didn’t trust myself, not that you could tell that from the outside looking in.  My friends would have told you that I showed confidence, inside I was the total opposite.  When you live with a narcissist, and that person makes sure you know how much you “disappoint”, you start to believe.

When that person is no longer in your life, you begin to learn to trust yourself.  You begin to realize that all along, you were just fine.  People may not always agree with my decisions, but I trust myself to make the best ones FOR ME!

I am a work in progress, aren’t we all?  I spend more time now with the “go with the flow” instead of the “swimming upstream”.  You do learn to breathe, you do learn to be more relaxed.  And yes, I appreciate how far I’ve come because I remember well where I started.  I trust myself and have grown so much in the past post-divorce 11+ years.

I like “me”.

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1.  Don’t be afraid to accept and appreciate life’s changes.

1.  Don’t be afraid to accept and appreciate life’s changes.

“You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.  You’re always growing.  Experiences don’t stop.  That’s life.

Sometimes there are things in our lives that aren’t meant to stay.  Sometimes the changes we don’t want are the changes we need to grow.  Let this sink in.  Growth and change may be painful sometimes, but nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong.

The bottom line is that you can’t reach for anything new if you’re holding on to yesterday.  You may think holding on makes you strong, but oftentimes it’s letting go and starting anew that truly builds your inner strength.”

 

Seems appropriate for today, Valentine’s Day!  I relegated this “special day” to the rear view years ago, here’s why.  When in college, I got engaged on Valentine’s Day.  I also had a puppy that I named Valentine because of it.  After 9 months, he changed his mind and picked going to Law School over marrying me.  Heartbreaking at the time, but you move on.  Life’s changes.

Then along came serious love interest #2.  Our first date was on Valentine’s Day.  Not sure he realized it, but it certainly made the “remembering” our first date details much easier through the years.  Yes – we married but after 30 years, he called it quits.  Life’s changes.

It’d be very easy to feel sorry for myself, and I’m sure I did a bit after each failed relationship – BUT – looking back, those things are what made me the person I am today.  Strong, Independent and Happy – that’s a hard fought battle but you can get there.

So when it says to not be afraid of life’s changes, and to accept them and appreciate them – it’s a goal we can attain.   Accept change, embrace it, and know that you’re always growing.  2019 – the year of moving forward!

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Happy 7th Birthday?

Or is it 7th Anniversary?  Either way, I remembered today that 7 years ago on February 12, I wrote and posted my first “blog”.

Alot has happened in the past 7 years, some good, some bad – but all has made me the person who writes this to you all today.  I have grown.

Without you, my followers, I might not have made the progress that I’ve made, nor realized how happy I could become.  You are the wind beneath my wings, and I’m grateful for you all.

Thank you!

 

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10 Days – 10 Thoughts On Living Your Best Life

Don’t Be Afraid to Do These 10 Hard Things for Yourself

 

Over the next 10 “posts”, I’ll be sharing with you a 10 part post that was shared with me, (thanks Char!), except I’ll break it up into 10 parts. Easier for me to think clearly about what each point is talking about, or suggesting as a guide.  This way, you too can stop and think on them one at a time.

Since I’ve determined 2019 is my year to really be the very best version of myself, and continuing to move ever forward, these seemed some good points to share with you as well.  As always, I love to hear from you so share your thoughts with me and with others!  If you have a friend that you think would benefit from our sharing, please share my “suddenlysinglewomen.me” with them and encourage them to “follow” me.

See you very soon!!

 

                                        “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”  Mae West

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