2. Don’t be afraid to trust yourself.
“You may not be where you want to be yet, but you’ve also come a long way from where you once were. Appreciate how far you’ve come. You’ve been through a lot, but you’ve grown a lot too. Give yourself credit for your strength and resilience. You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself going forward, not because you’ve always made the right choices, but because you’ve survived and grown from the bad ones.
Good things take time, and you’re getting there. So don’t allow yourself to be crippled by stress and self-loathing. Everything is only as it is. There’s no reason to let it cripple you. Remind yourself to breathe—to let every moment be what it’s going to be. What’s meant to be will come your way, and what’s not will fall away. And remember that life’s best gifts may not always be wrapped the way you expect.”
Boy is this a good one for me. For years I didn’t trust myself, not that you could tell that from the outside looking in. My friends would have told you that I showed confidence, inside I was the total opposite. When you live with a narcissist, and that person makes sure you know how much you “disappoint”, you start to believe.
When that person is no longer in your life, you begin to learn to trust yourself. You begin to realize that all along, you were just fine. People may not always agree with my decisions, but I trust myself to make the best ones FOR ME!
I am a work in progress, aren’t we all? I spend more time now with the “go with the flow” instead of the “swimming upstream”. You do learn to breathe, you do learn to be more relaxed. And yes, I appreciate how far I’ve come because I remember well where I started. I trust myself and have grown so much in the past post-divorce 11+ years.
I like “me”.
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