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As Travel Opens Up More?

I’ve been wanting to share this, but during the pandemic crisis, and shutdowns for the travel industry, it wasn’t the right time.   Now that things are easing a bit, and people are feeling safer (as a result of going stir crazy no doubt) I am pulling this “share” out to share.

It was an article I read in the AARP magazine that really made me realize I’m not the only one who sees how much it is a “couples world”.   No where is this more obvious than in restaurant dining and travel.  Those two things were really hit hard starting last Spring when the world shut down.

To quote the opening of the article by Christina Ianzito:

“The number of women wanting female-only trips has skyrocketed in recent years, with companies like Damesly, Whoa Travel and Living Big Travel devoted entirely to such excursions.  Other long-standing tour operators including Intrepid Travel and Road Scholar, now provide these kinds of trips in addition to their other ones.

Some women say they’d feel like a fifth wheel being single among a bunch of couples, and that a wonderful camaraderie develops when guys aren’t around.”

For years I’ve had one very special friend who travels alone or with other women friends (looking at you LL!) and has not let being alone hold her adventurous spirit hold her back!  What a fab role model she is to her three adult daughters.  What an inspiration she is to me!

So if wanderlust is knocking on your door, go check out the above companies (also including REI Women’s Adventures) and read up on popular “women-only” getaways!!  Maybe I’ll see you one day soon!!

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Ahhhh – Summertime, Summertime, Sum Sum Summertime!

(hopefully the tune hit your brain, LOL??)

One thing the start of the pandemic, the shutdowns, etc did for many was to help them clear all their “lists” of things to watch on every TV watching service available.

Whether it’s a DVR, a streaming service, a Netflix DVD – we were watching a multitude of things to fill the time.  Back in January it was something happening elsewhere.   Then it hit here.  What do you do when you hunker down?

TV programming!

I jotted down this from one of the many shows I watched, then forgot about it.   I uncovered it the other day and remembered I wanted to share it.   It made me chuckle.   We all need a good chuckle every now and again, right?

Not saying this is how you should approach life, but hey – if the shoe fits . . . . ?

“Not dealing with things is my preferred way of dealing with things”!

Wish I could remember which show I heard it on, I watched so many but there you have it.   Hope it brought a slight chuckle to you today.  (I think the heat is getting to me!)

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“Be His Light In The World”

Period.

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A Thought For Life – – –

I heard this quote the other day and it was like a “message” was being sent to me directly.

Family, friends, neighbors, people in general – sometimes they irk you.  You wonder how can they not see it?  You get cranky, you might even think you should “get even” – but what does that solve?  Doesn’t change them, their actions, one bit.

So next time you get REALLY irritated, think of this:

“LOVE ISN’T BASED ON A SCORECARD”

It might help.

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Let’s Try This Again – – –

I’m going to try this again.   For some reason, I copy the link and it just does NOT want to go into my post.   Fingers crossed, I never promised to be “techie”, ha ha!!  But Copy and Paste has always worked in the past.

If it doesn’t work, you can try a Google search for the author:  John P Weiss and it was posted on October 24, 2019.

The does and don’ts of polite conversation are always things to remember, especially these days of people being overly anxious and stirred up.  Thanks for your patience.

 

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The Art Of Conversation – – –

My son sent me this a while back.  I’m hoping that it wasn’t necessarily directed at me, but more a share of things that irritate all of us.  Yes, I have some friends that do this, constantly interrupt and not let me finish my thoughts or my sentence.

At least now tho’, I am trying really hard to make sure I’m not also “one of those”.  Polite conversation, after the spring of social distancing we’ve all had, just being together is going to be more important than ever.  Let’s all be more aware of “listening” first.

 

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Do We Need Closer Friendships?

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Final Thoughts For A New Decade #9 – – –

I AM ENOUGH!

So, . . . it’s bolded and capitalized.

Yes I am.

If you’ve never lived or worked or associated yourself with a person or persons who do not think you are enough?  Lucky you.

If you have, I’m sorry.

I have.

It’s taken me a long time to appreciate my worth as a person, as a friend, as a member of a family unit.

How are you feeling today?  Are you feeling like you are enough?  My hopes for all of us is that we continue to put ourselves in the best environments and situations where we are able to realize our full potential, and grow to know we are enough.

As the “social distancing” continues, we’ve been given the gift of time to do more self reflection.  Be safe everyone.

Glow from within my fiends.  You are enough!

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Thoughts For A New Decade #8 – – –

I have the right to express my needs honestly

“Honestly” – that’s an interesting way of putting this thought.  Does not doing it honestly mean you alter those needs because no one around you is going to help fulfill those needs unless you make it easy for them?  Or does it mean you alter your needs to fit their needs, their timing, their opinions of your needs?

Doesn’t it really just mean to be yourself, take care of yourself, and if you need something more from a family member, a friend, a partner you are honest in opening up to them?

My Father used to say that honesty is the best policy.  Bet you heard that one too when you were growing up and learning to be your own person.

If those that you surround yourself are too busy filling their own needs to concern themselves with any of yours, maybe it is time to alter the way you seek to fulfill your personal needs with those same people.  Maybe they are just totally unaware that you need a bit more attention.

And perhaps if you make decisions about those close to you without giving them the opportunity to learn of your needs, and your frustrations, it’s being unfair to them.   Or maybe you need to seek out a more caring and thoughtful group of people to be around.

This one is a tough one.  Lately I have begun to be more vocal in the things I need, seek, in friends and family.  If something bothers me, I’m trying to be more “honest” and open about it, JUST IN CASE those friends and family do not realize.

And then . . . if they chose not to care, I have my answer.

 

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Thoughts For A New Decade #7 – – –

“I have a right to my own feelings”

See #5!   Ha!  JK!

There are alot of similarities, but I think feelings tend to go a bit deeper than opinions.

Feelings can give your emotions a real roller coaster ride.

Any feelings can change at any given moment.  I can be “feeling” really down, and then something really cool happens and the dreary just vanishes.

And vice versa . . .

One of the mantras of my book was having the right to your own feelings.  I also shared how much I detested it (is that too strong?) when people would tell me to just “move on”.  Like . . . really?

We’re all going to have personal feelings that others do not agree with, or understand.   Lest you judge, I’m pretty sure we’ve all been guilty of wondering why/how someone can be so caught up with their emotions and feelings and cannot get over it.

Time, patience, empathy – that’s what you really need, or need to offer.  You have a right to your own feelings, you feel me?

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