Yes, there will always be those days that you experience “the lows”. It’s a constant struggle to maintain “the highs” – and that’s not just a symptom of divorce. That’s true for all people.
From the outside looking in, my friends and family would say I have a pretty outstanding “easy” life. I have a lovely home, a paid for car, two adult sons who are successful and have loving relationships, freedom to live life on my own terms, etc. But does that mean I don’t have times that I sink into the doldrums and wonder when (if) my heart will soar again?
I have those times, and I bet you do too. Sometimes I can see them coming, sometimes not. Sometimes they’re petty – I admit it, sometimes they’re justified. They still happen. I thought I had reached a time in my life where my “friend set” WAS set, and we’d march into our later years together with moxie and mojo.
Sadly that’s not always the case. So you learn to be flexible. You learn to forgive (or forget) those that have moved on and left you behind who don’t even know they’ve hurt you. You make new friends, you try not to become more guarded this time around – but you just can’t help it. This is especially true of your “single” women friends.
The minute they have a new man in their lives? Sayonara!! They rejoin the “couples world”. See ‘ya!
When I saw this quote below – it helped me tremendously. My heart is still hurting a bit but this made me feel hopeful, and when you have “those days”, I hope you’ll save it and it’ll help you too!
Quote: “Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are
exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite
possibilities that are born in yourself and others.
May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has
been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are.
Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom
to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of
us.”
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Actually those ladies who helped me bring in my “60th” are all married and have not left me behind. I’ve known most of them for 25-30 years and we’ve been through divorce, cancer, loss of loved ones including a child – and always stayed tight. They are the blessings in my life. And when they have the opportunity to include me, they do. They are the exception and not the rule however. My circle grows smaller and tighter but is truer.
If you find a new man in your life, will you remember your single friends that helped you get “through?” I haven’t had one that did. I do not find many people in this world any more that do not “use” others for their purposes. “In God I trust, and no one else…..”
Have those ladies that you took on your yacht trip on your birthday invited you to some nice things & trips this summer? Or only for lunch…..????? Interesting……???? Jinx