“it’s not my job to take responsibility for others”
What “others” are we talking about here? Guess it depends on your age, and the time of your life.
As a younger Mom, sure, I took responsibility for the actions of my two sons. That’s a natural. Luckily they didn’t get into too much trouble . . . that I found out about? But now, they’re grown men, with families of their own – and certainly I feel no need to be responsible for their lives (unless of course you want to tell me how brilliant they are, or what great fathers they are – then, well maybe?)
As a young wife, I did many times feel responsible for the things we did “as a couple”, commitments made, events attended, lives impacted. His actions were a reflection on me, and vice versa – that’s alot of pressure to take on. As time went by, I realized, I was NOT responsible for his actions and toward the end of the marriage it was a relief to have validation from friends, family and peers that the actions he chose were not a reflection on me.
The older I get, the older we all get, we understand that we are responsible for one person here on earth – ourselves. Want to see who you should think about when you’re making decisions? Grab a mirror and start there. Of course there are ancillary “re-actions” to the actions you take that will trickle down. And when that happens? Step up and be accountable.
Wha’dya think?
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