Becoming the best version of yourself

5.  Don’t be afraid to say “no” to unnecessary obligations.

on March 11, 2019

5.  Don’t be afraid to say “no” to unnecessary obligations.

“In a world with so much noise and clutter, you must make room for what matters.  That means pruning nonessential commitments and eliminating as many distractions as you possibly can.  No wasted time, no fluff, no regrets.

The mark of a successful and peaceful person is the ability to set aside the “somewhat important” things in order to accomplish the vital ones first.  When you’re crystal clear about your priorities, you can painlessly arrange them in the right order and discard the activities and commitments that do not support the ones at the top of your list.”


Hallelujah!  Priorities, right?  I think this one might also come along with age, and I mean that in a positive way.

When we’re younger, say . . . post college, and into that career rise and family growth mode, we take on the world.  We figure out a way to handle it, hopefully, with some balance if we’re lucky.  What we wear, who we associate with, how our children perform in school, how our passion to save the world (or at least make it a better place) ignites us with a call to action.

As we get older, and more accepting of our limitations, we can come to peace (grips) with our inability (or desire) to be all things to all people.  We understand that it’s OK to focus on our own needs.

Ditch the noise and the clutter, make room for what matters – taking care of #1 as my Dad used to say.

Because no one else will.


2 responses to “5.  Don’t be afraid to say “no” to unnecessary obligations.

  1. hrock1 says:

    Lynda, this is so important! As we get older we become increasingly aware that time is a precious commodity. Yet, it seems there is more demand on our time and attention than ever before. So, for me at least, I find myself in the position of saying no much more often these days.

    BTW, I will always remember you telling me about your dad’s advice to you-to take care of yourself because no one else will. You were so right.

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