Becoming the best version of yourself

If I had to make a choice . . . . .

on March 26, 2012

I’ve just returned from a very special weekend, one with the GF’s.  You know – the “girl friends”!  We went to a friend’s place in the country.  We arrived on Friday with time for HH – happy hour – and a lovely sunset.   My friend and her husband have restored a wonderful farmhouse, and made improvements all over the property.  And of course, my favs, they have horses!!  After settling in we wandered down to the barn to say hello to the five horses currently in residence.  Her husband rides and shows cutting horses – an amazing thing to watch if you never have.  The athleticism will amaze you.  Of course, I love anything having to do with horses.  : -)

Afterward we came back to the porch, sat in the rocking chairs and solved the problems of the world, or at least our world.  I’ve had this particular friend for almost thirty years, and there’s not much about “me” that she doesn’t know.  We snacked, and giggled and enjoyed our own version of Patsy Cline karaoke with her juke box.  There might have even been a Tom Cruise “Risky Business” sock slide across the old farmhouse wooden floor at some point.  The next day we were joined by another GF, and continued our girl talk late into the evening around the outdoor fire pit while admiring the sliver of moon, Jupiter and Venus in the clear night sky.

Sunday morning, we slept in, then gathered on the porch, once again in the rockers, and with either coffee or tea in hand, set about planning our day.  By the time I returned back to reality on Sunday evening I couldn’t quit smiling.  I thought fondly of some of our silliness, and of the way we were there for each other.  No one sat in judgment, no one criticized.  There was only support, understanding and empathy.  When I woke up Monday morning, it was with a smile on my face, something I haven’t had for a while.  I’m blessed with the love and support of my GF’s.  Somehow they make me feel like I can accomplish anything.  They build me up, they do not tear me down.  They do not pick me apart with faults, they do not blame me for the things wrong in their lives.  They love me unconditionally and for that I am grateful.

So this weekend, if I’d had to make a choice between being with an emotionally unavailable male or my GF’s, I’d pick the GF’s.  They fill my heart with gladness.


5 responses to “If I had to make a choice . . . . .

  1. Since my husband asked for the divorce I’ve been concentrating on growing friendships and I’ve found I have some wonderful GFs. I’m not sure what I would have done without them.

    • Gather the GF’s close (and a good attorney closer). It’s time to take care of you. Do not think of it as being selfish, but as being proactive in your well-being Non-judgemental GF’s helped me survive, the meddling ones have all fallen away when I quit giving them fuel for gossip. Good luck in your journey.

  2. Bryn says:

    Loved this message. I agree.. there is nothing like true “girl friends”.

  3. Jinx Chiles says:

    You are lucky you still have girlfriends after your divorce. They must be very special. Jinx

  4. Kathy Jensen says:

    Girlfriend weekends are always reaffirming and envelope us with unconditional love. An emotionally available male can also do that! You just have not found one yet. And even if the immediate future does not hold that option for you, you will ALWAYS have your girlfriends. It’s what women excel at throughout life!

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