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The “Match” Game – OR – Entertaining Yourself The Hard Way . . .

on April 4, 2014

So . . . the dating website saga continues.  I’m beginning to think that this is some form of really weird entertainment?  Like an “outta” body experience that surely must be happening to someone else and not me.  This is what dating at a certain advanced age is really going to be like?


After my four hour dinner with the “Sailor”, who seemed to enjoy it and texted a couple of times from Miami, he went “radio silent”.  POOF!!  I’m starting to not be surprised by this behavior and learning that it’s not really MY fault that they act one way and think another.  Then last Friday night he texts to see how my day is going and asks about the horse show he knows my barn is participating in.


Since he had texted me a photo of himself with the sailboats in Miami, I texted him a photo of myself with a “barn buddy” from the horse show grounds where we were attending a jumper event.  He did text back . . . but the content of his text was asking about the lady I was with.  Seriously??  Now it’s my turn to go radio silent, and delete him from the “favorites” on the website.


Two others from the dating site who “favorited” me, liked my profile, and conversed through the site’s email have now also gone radio silent.  They express interest, converse, flirt then disappear.  Hey, I had that for 30 years, I don’t need to pay for it, LOL!!  And the truly weird thing is that you can see when (and whom) reads your profile.  Why the heck do they keep reading it?  I am NOT evolving!


Last night I met another “I’m interested in you” for drinks – the “Home Builder”.   Again, at a restaurant at 7:30.  I’ve wised up.  I ate a small meal around 5:30-6:00.  Good thing, but at least this one paid for my glass of wine and didn’t stand there waiting for me to get my own.  After a couple of hours, it was time to go and he escorted me to my SUV.  Very gallant behavior and not the norm!  Then he took my hand to thank me for meeting him and as I said thank you back I noticed the “incoming” lips.  ARGH!#$%&(?|$#@!  I HATE THIS!!!!!!


He’s already texted today that he enjoyed meeting me and would like to get together again IF I’m of the same mind.  I realized I hadn’t even told him my last name – I think I must be steeling myself every time I meet a new one to have them just move on.  Why give away valuable info??  My conversational skills are definitely getting some practice but the personal info is on lock down.


Sunday night I may be meeting one for dinner however I’ve not heard back from him since he offered.  When we shared what parts of town we lived in, and the favorite restaurants in the area, he intimated that the ones I listed were a bit mundane and “been there/done that” already.  He lives downtown in a loft.  Guess he moonlights as the “Food Critic” – only time will tell.


Then Tuesday I’m having lunch with an older gentleman, I do have my age restrictions but this one is as a favor to a friend.  We visited briefly on the phone and the “Gentleman” asked for a lunch date.  He sounds very polite, but when he asked for my address to pick me up my ears started ringing.  I’m so used to “meeting them there” with the web dating that I actually forgot for a moment that this is a “friend of a friend” and he’s probably OK to get into a car with – ha ha!  The things we have to fret about . . .


I’m not really sure how much more of this I’m game for.  They say you have to put yourself out there, they say you have to kiss a lot of frogs (hey, I don’t really wanna kiss ANY of them so far but . . .) however my charm school etiquette is getting stretched pretty thin like a bad facelift, and if I do believe in searching for that spark of chemistry –  maybe I just need to buy some test tubes, bunsen burners and chemicals.  High School Science anyone?




One response to “The “Match” Game – OR – Entertaining Yourself The Hard Way . . .

  1. Jinx Chiles says:

    As I probably mentioned before, the type of man that I would go out with, would not be older than 63; I am 66. If they were fairly nice looking, had more money than me, they would be dating 40-50 year old women. I have heard a lot of really nice looking women (60ish), and esp. that Have money…, men do not feel comfortable with them,, nor do they want to keep up w/ the “high maintenance” of a wealthier woman.. I listen to all kind of stories….and it is interesting at the comparisons…….Keep on blogging………. Jinx

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