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Apr 4

4) Things Always Get Better With Time

by suddenlysinglewomen

This is a bit like “It’s always darkest just before dawn!”

Or, “Time, it’s the great healer!”

Eventually . . .

Boy, when I first found out about my husband “living outside the bonds of marriage”, I was devastated.  The reactions from friends were as different as night and day.  The common thread seemed to be, if I elected to stay – things would get better with time.

It sure didn’t seem like it.  And just how much time does it take anyway?

Everyone’s situation is different (just like yesterday’s everyone’s journey is different) and no one can tell you just when your “thing” will get better, but it will.

The passage of time dims the hurt; your life gets back on track with patience.

I’m ten years post divorce now, that’s alot of time for things to get better.  The good news?  They have, and continue to do so.  It may not be the path I thought I’d be on when I got married at 23, but for me at this time in my life – it is the best path.

And things just keep getting better!

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Apr 3

3) Everyone’s Journey Is Different

by suddenlysinglewomen

So true!

While I was gathering information for my book, and talking to other women about things that had happened in their lives over the years of marriage, successful or not – one thing became very clear.

Everyone’s journey is different.

Things that I initially thought were obvious and universal, became different and unsuspected.  You put 100 people in a room and hand them a set of circumstance and they will all handle it differently.  They are neither right or wrong, just different.

Just like yesterday’s post on opinions, our journeys and forks in the road happen at different times and for different reasons – there is not always a clear right and/or wrong.

Yes, looking back there might be things I would’ve done differently, and my path might have then been different at this point.  There is still no time travel going back to change things.  Having regrets, making amends, moving forward – it is your journey and hopefully you embrace it fully.

Those bumps in the road, the potholes you fall into – they make you who you are.  Special.

Embrace “different” – you only go ’round once!

 

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Apr 2

2) Opinions Don’t Define Your Reality

by suddenlysinglewomen

Opinions, we all have them.  We don’t always share them, people don’t always share them, but they’re there.

Do we all want only positive opinions?  Do negative opinions really hurt us or do they inspire us to make change?

I’ve always thought it’s the “way” the opinion is expressed that matters more than the actual opinion itself.  We’re all entitled to our own opinions aren’t we?  Uh Oh – here’s the free speech rhetoric.  Sorry!!

Or how about, “I didn’t ask for your opinion”.  Or, “Hey, you’re entitled to your own opinion, just don’t try to change mine”?

Seriously, your reality really isn’t always defined by other’s opinions unless it actually causes you to stop, think and alter your course.

Your reality is just that – yours, and I really should just respect that it might be different than mine.  Doesn’t make me right and you wrong, or you right and me wrong – it is after all, JUST an opinion.

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