So I recently shared with you “putting it out there in the Universe” and that worked SOOOOO well – NOT!
Then a dear friend tells me she has a new BF, one she found on eHarmony. So even though I’ve never had any luck on the dating websites per se, I think I’ll give it another shot. I sign up for eHarmony. The first week, I begin a conversation – via eHarmony site – with a (on paper) seemingly nice and interested gentleman. He seems to meet my criteria. He seems interested. Then after a week of online repartee, he disappears – totally. No more communication. Gee – was it something I said?
Not to be dissuaded, I begin another online conversation with a nice and interested man, we get to the point that he says let’s communicate “outside” of the eHarmony website and gives me his real name, real cell phone number, real job and website and suggests to me that I “google him”. I’m thinking, OK, he wouldn’t give me his stats unless he was interested . . . right?
One day later, after I’ve thanked him for his “trust”, he sends me a message that an old “relationship” wants to try again so he’s off the market and wishes me good luck. I mean . . . seriously? It’s really hard to keep the confidence level high when you can’t even get a “face to face”. Believe me, I’m much better “in person” than over cyber space.
The next week, I decide to try “OurTime.com” – a website for the 50+ only, thinking once again that if they go to the trouble of filling out a profile and answering questions then they might actually be interested in meeting people? Something about having to spend $$ to join makes you think they’re more serious. Again, photos are “liked”, “flirts” are sent, conversations are started and all is plodding along swell until it gets to the point of actually setting up a “meet” – then the communications stop. One begins to believe these are the “married” guys you here about that are only searching for some cyber space thrills but can’t really deliver themselves ‘in person”.
One offers to meet for coffee, or at least to get a rain check then when you accept the offer – poof. Haven’t heard from him in two days. And they say women “tease”? !@#$%^&*? But hey – I’ve paid for my month so I’ll keep it up but I’m not very hopeful. I have included below another gift from my friend Diva J, which when you listen to it will lead you to believe that the men really DO want to meet and have a relationship. Guess I haven’t found that website . . . yet!
http://seniorplanet.org/dating-relationships-sex-after-60-with-hal-spielman-and-marc-silbert/
suddenlysinglewomen 
I know that I am very selective, and I want to be that way. I want what I want. Most people will take what they can get & make themselves happy with what they got. I just am not that desperate; I am lonely for the life I grew up in, my children growing up, and having family w/ grandchildren……not just lonely for a “man.” Society (married women) have done this to single women, but then single women have shown that they will do most anything to get a “man.” I have found this world and what it has come to be very undesirable….so, I love my pets, grandchildren, and know that the next world to come will be so wonderful and eternal. “In God I trust, and no one else.” Jinx