Becoming the best version of yourself


on March 19, 2012

While driving yesterday I heard a C & W song that refers to a “Single White Female”.  The personal ads list them as SWF’s.  Of course, divorce has no ethnicity boundaries so it could just as easily be SBF or SLF – the choices are endless.  However, it’s still a label.  And it’s so darned depressing at times.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s not the type of depressing that makes you wanna drive your car off the nearest cliff.   It’s the kind of depressing that sometimes makes you sound a tad desperate.  Do you know what I mean?

Have you wondered why when you fill out most applications these days that they want to know not just that you’re a “female”, they want to know your “status”.  They ask if you’re single, married, divorced, separated or widowed?  Except for that second choice, the others are pretty much “ALONE”!!!  What the heck difference does it make?

For a Dr’s office, maybe they want to make sure there is a “responsible party” – someone who can pay for their services – ok, makes some sense.  But the others?  Do we have to call attention to it?  You don’t think being divorced is bad enough but I have to let everyone else know that I’m a product of a failed marriage?  If you’re going to ask me for my status, can you at least give me a couple of blank lines to fill in that it wasn’t really my choice to be this age and single?  Don’t know why, it just rubs me the wrong way as if there’s really a big need for anyone to know why I’m NOT a married woman.

How about you??  Any thoughts??  What pushes your buttons??  Let us hear from you!


3 responses to “SWF

  1. I hadn’t thought about this – yet. I’m new to this separated and soon to be divorced thing – now that its been brought to my attention I think I’ll be leaving that blank.

  2. Jinx Chiles says:

    All of the above push my buttons. I am tired of being discriminated against, too…..because I am “single.” Do we have the right to protest and demand respect from others????
    Everyone else is protesting their “buttons” and people who are not even citizens here. Jinx

  3. Jinx Chiles says:

    Your concerns are right on!!! I walk into a Christian Bible Study; I am the only “unmarried” women in our small group. Outside of the small group, no one has ever “socialized w/ me, asked what I am doing for the holidays….the summer….they don’t want to ask, because it might mean they have to include a “single” person,…and they aren’t interested in doing that. It is a real awakening when we lose our spouse, and not because it was our choice. Jinx

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