Cleaning out the “draft folder” – it’s full of things I find that grab my attention, and I want to post about them, but just need some time to think on it. So, I copy and paste, and save to “draft”.
Periodically I go back and edit, and post after fleshing out my thoughts. Sometimes it just speaks for itself, LOL! Making those positive changes in your life allows you to walk away from the negative nellies. Cannot say I’d go so far as the quote below, but it did make me chuckle, and I hope you’ll take it in the fun with which I intend by sharing it with you!
Jim’s Daily Awakenings
Sorry I Can’t Take Your Call Right Now . . .
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So How Are Those Resolutions Coming Along??
https://www.buzzfeed.com/jemimaskelley/tiny-changes
Had to squeeze in another post for the first month of a new year!! My sweet friend and constant promoter/follower CS sent this one to me. Thank you ma’am!! I really enjoyed reading all the suggestions for “tiny changes”, and even clicked on some of the links within this link.
I’ve been trying to add some of them to my day because I am determined that this is the year of feeling “Positive”! Moreover, I’ve even taken to sharing posts on Facebook on Fridays with the hashtag:
#FeelGoodFriday
Can you see the thread in my 2018 Blog posts so far?
When I share with people about my book, and my blog, they often mistake what it’s all about. They have no interest in reading it, or following it, especially if they’re happily married or have no divorce plans in their future. At first the lack of support really hurt my feelings, after all, I would certainly go buy a copy of a book if a friend wrote one – regardless of the content.
Yes, the book is definitely related to surviving divorce. More importantly, it’s for getting yourself back on track, and finding the best version of yourself. Same with the blog, as it started out about divorce survival, but has totally turned into a place to share positive thoughts, and new beginnings, reminders to take care of yourself AND show compassion to others.
Someday, I hope people will give it a chance instead of assuming they wouldn’t enjoy it, or need it. It’s been so cathartic for me, and the positive feed back I do receive from those who follow is what keeps me writing and sharing. So to you followers? Thank you from the bottom of my typing fingertips!!
2018 for me is going to be about feeling good about life, being happy with my circumstances, being grateful for my blessings, and spreading positivity through the world – at least my world.
I would love for you to join me. To quote from my alma mater: “What starts here changes the world”!
Just A Reminder – – –
While cleaning off my refrigerator the other day (note to self, double-sided sticky tape is really hard to get off your stainless steel appliances!!) – I finally took down one of my 2017 objectives.
Before it goes into the recycle bin, it bears repeating one more time – because it’s so pertinent to the “new year” and “new beginnings” I’ve been sharing. So indulge me and let’s run this one by one more time.
A quote by Brigitte Nicole:
Either they like you or they don’t Never try to convince somebody of your worth. If a person doesn’t appreciate you, they don’t deserve you. Respect yourself and be with people who truly value “you”.
Can I hear an AMEN!
New Year’s Eve – A Favorite . . .
. . . and boy am I in the minority. I like to go someplace festive and celebrate. Most of my friends want to stay in – I stay in all the time so to me, I want to be with happy, fun people to welcome in the New Year.
Think of all the possibilities for all the wonderful things that might happen to you in 2018?
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it, with a glass of bubbly in my hand!
I didn’t reach my goal of 100 followers by year’s end – bummer. So if you know of just one friend you could share this blog with? I bet I can get to 100 in 2018! What are your 2018 goals?
See you on the flip side, love my followers – CHEERS!!
The Season of Thanksgiving!
Are we still in it?
Logic would tell me that we should be in it all year round, it’s just more visible this time of the year?
I saw a quote the other day: “Gratitude is the Attitude that sets the Altitude for living”, by James MacDonald.
His premise is that you can live in the depressing low-lands of the world, or have a high-altitude attitude! Sounds good, but is it really that easy?
He says that living in this high-altitude attitude is up where the air is clean, the sun is shining and the future is bright, where life soars above and refuses to focus on the negative. I jokingly think that all I have to do to find that attitude, is drive to the mountains to get that feeling, but seriously . . .
How nice would it be to have that attitude 365 days of each year? How refreshing would it be to surround yourself with people who have that attitude as well?
They say change begins with you, and I personally happen to see the benefit to living a higher altitude attitude. I’m “over” the negative nellies who are so unhappy that they choose to bring you down as well. I’m sorry for them, I do empathize with them, but do not want to be around them.
It’s a constant effort – but so worth it. I am thankful for all the positiveness around me; I am thankful that 2017 has been so much happier than 2016. That feels so odd to say since 2016 was the year I accomplished my goal of publishing my book, and became an Amazon Best Selling author.
I am hopeful that we can all live a season of Thanksgiving – all year round. The view in that higher altitude is pretty darned spectacular!
A “Share” From One of the “Smilingest” People I Know!
A while back, I got an email from my sweet friend CS with a great “share” idea! We all want to smile, we all want to be happy. So maybe below, might be a few ways to help us find our smile again!
WHAT IS THE MOST OBVIOUS BEAUTY SECRET OF ALL?
Is the beauty “secret” we take for granted, the one we struggle with and the one we rely on others for, on top of your list?
I am thinking it is happiness, with a capital H.
Happiness is directly related to inner beauty and our inner beauty is what truly makes us shine.
It is easy to take happiness as a given and it’s not; it is not something we should ever rely on. Life is messy and unpredictable every single day and we never know what might be coming our way. Our “guaranteed” happiness can be snuffed out in an instant.
What is important to know is happiness will re-appear but it might not happen alone. It is a work in progress and like most of what is worth pursuing, it takes practise.
Some people would seem to be born with a penchant for happiness.
They make happy look effortless as if cares and troubles are not on their radar. It’s not true; everyone has problems, tragedies and disappointments to overcome. We are not immune and it is a question of how we deal with darkness that makes or breaks.
The simple pleasure of feeling happy can oftentimes seem to be unattainable, but in my experience, all it takes is a little know-how and dedication.
How do we re-discover happiness?
Happiness starts with ourselves.
It is important to look within to find our own contentment and ultimate joy and we cannot depend on others to do the work for us. I try and reconnect with old pleasures that brought a smile in the past; it is so easy to forget when they are lost in the layers of everyday life. Once we understand our own happiness we can share it with others and pay it forward. It is a quality that has no bounds and no limits and truly, more is more.
Happiness is not a given.
We won’t necessarily wake up happy each and every day. Life intervenes and moods can swing and good spirits can require routine and perseverance. Expectations should be realistic so we don’t set ourselves up for disappointment. It is okay to have a bad day, a day where nothing seems promising. The art is to recognise, define and accept those feelings and to be aware they will not be permanent.
Happiness is about the practical.
A problem solved is one way to feeling happier. Losing the weight of worry can help us channel our brighter feelings. Dealing with problems and compartmentalising, so they don’t suck the positivity from our lives, is an important skill.
I find exercise is one way to relieve stress and allow happiness its rightful place. The other is to spoil ourselves in ways that please; to do what you enjoy not what you think you should be doing. Read the romance novel if it brings a smile, the Economist can wait. Watch the latest TV series in a binge; the housekeeping is going nowhere. Treat yourself in small ways and see huge effects. Use escapism to re-set the balance and recover some light heartedness, remembering it is a short-term fix.
Happiness breeds happiness.
Spending time with others who are upbeat is like an injection of positivity and nothing feels better than being around happy, I find it is infectious. The opposite can be said for those who view the glass half full.
Happiness in small bites.
Happiness does not always come super sized, life does not allow for that. Take the small wins and be thankful for those. We need happiness to be attainable, not elusive. There is much to be gained from small blessings.
Happiness and appreciation.
We can appreciate the beauty around us or we can ignore it. I choose to appreciate the beauty in the everyday and I acknowledge some days are harder than others. The smallest glimpse can elevate our mood and release happiness. It may be fleeting at times, but in my view it all counts. It is about riches but not about wealth. I have known those with so much who have so little and those with so little who have so much. I try and believe if we are grateful for the small, the rest will follow.
Happiness, there is no better feeling. xv
Part Three – – –
The third “attitude” change from the book:
“Lord, Change My Attitude Before It’s Too Late”
by: James MacDonald
Replace a critical attitude, with an attitude of love.
This is a tough one; we all can be critical of people, places and things when we’re having a really bad day. It just comes out whether we mean it to or not.
Case in point, never have a witnessed such a “divide” in our country since the last Presidential election. NO – I’m not going to talk politics here, but I use as an example a severe case of criticism from all sides. Mudslinging – It’s everywhere, there’s no escaping it.
People are unfriending people because of it. When does it stop? Where does it end?
It stops and ends when we begin as a nation, to change our attitudes to ones of more love, kindness and tolerance.
I’ve witnessed this first hand the last month + after Hurricane Harvey devastated my hometown of Houston and many surrounding areas. Though Harvey made landfall over Rockport, TX, what you saw on the national news was all related to Houston.
A miraculous thing happened. Neighbor began helping neighbor. Strangers began helping strangers. Everyone put aside their “critical attitudes” and showed tremendous amounts of love and compassion. Critical attitudes were forgotten, and an outpouring of love such as I’ve never/ever seen replaced it.
Will this replace all the hate? Sadly no, but it’s a start. Proud of my city and state for coming together and showing a nation how it can be done. Let’s keep it up!
Part Two – – –
Continuing on from the Book:
“Lord, Change My Attitude Before It’s Too Late”
OK – tell the truth, have you been thinking of the things you’re grateful/thankful for? Hope so!
Here’s the second installment!
Replace a Covetous Attitude with an Attitude of Contentment!
Covet, kind of an old fashioned word. Synonymous with envy? I googled it and found this:
“Covetous, greedy, acquisitive, grasping, avaricious mean having or showing a strong desire for especially material possessions. Covetous implies inordinate desire often for another’s possessions.”
Strong words – makes me picture a snarling and drooling wild hound. You get the drift though. It’s never being happy with what you have. It’s a “have not’s” kind of jealousy of the “have’s”. I admit that I sometimes used to covet the loving relationships that some of my friends have with their husbands or significant others. Does that make me a bad person? No, probably just makes me a “real” person. It also doesn’t get me anywhere toward the goal of being a happy person.
Contentment with what you have is something I think you acquire the older and wiser you get. You learn that “things” don’t make you happy. You learn that “people” don’t have the responsibility to make you happy. YOU make you happy.
Sure, who doesn’t want to get that new pair of shoes you saw in the magazine, but when you have plenty of shoes already – shouldn’t you be content? Looking around the world today, I’m often reminded of just how content I should be with the freedoms of this country, the friends and family who care for me, the pantry and fridge that are full of nutrition for my body, the resources that allow me to pay my bills and have a roof over my head, the nature that is food for my soul.
It’s not quite as fun as High School graduation was, but I can say that I have graduated. I can feel the contentment settle over me every day now. I may not have chosen the status of divorced single woman of a “certain” age approaching the age medicare – but it gave me the opportunity to learn how to be a content woman – and that’s worth all the tea in China!
A “Five” Parter! Part One – – –
I’ve done alot of reading this summer. At my age, I not only still need to keep my mind active, but it’s also a new tool I’m using to help me “power down” and relax before turning out the lights. You see, I have a hard time falling asleep. Have for a long time. I figure that reading is better for me than Ambien.
Plus, I’m old-fashioned. Even tho’ I own a Kindle and have about a dozen books downloaded to read, I’m clearing out my paperback stash! (refer to the earlier “declutter” post!)
The book I’m almost finished with is:
“Lord, Change My Attitude Before It’s Too Late”
by: James MacDonald
Safe to say, we all know how our attitude can affect our daily lives and decisions. It also affects how others perceive us AND treat us. The author divides it into five parts. I could see myself, and others, in all of those parts. So for fun, and for the purpose of sharing, I thought I’d tell you about those five attitude changes you can make to be a happier and healthier person. It’s never too late – right?
Part One:
Replace a Complaining Attitude with a Thankful Attitude!
I’ve written about this one before, from many different angles. It is still something so important to think about – and so easy.
What does complaining really get you? Does it get those things changed that drive you crazy? Do you really think you’re going to change another person’s thoughts, actions, feelings by complaining? Uhhhhh, really? Yeah . . . no!
One of my biggest?
Drivers. I’m a native Houstonian, I learned to drive in Houston (survival of the craziest!) and I can tell you that there are alot of really really (have I emphasized really?) bad drivers there. I fuss at them out loud from the inside of my car.
I used to honk at them. Now people carry guns so instead I just frown (I need BOTOX!) or glare.
They change lanes without looking. They don’t use their blinkers. They wait till the LAST minute to get over to the exit, even tho’ they knew five miles back that they needed to exit there. They crawl along while talking on their cells. They text. They don’t follow directions. They don’t use their mirrors. They don’t follow signs saying “No Left Turn”. They pull into the entrance of a store going 5 miles an hour . . . after not using their signal.
What is that getting me? Nothing, just more anger. It’s something I am really working on. It sounds petty and silly but it’s my reality. So now what to do?
When I feel a complaint coming on, what would happen if I started thinking of the things I’m thankful for? In this book, it has a page you are to copy and list five things every day you are thankful for. There have been FB challenges before to friends to list everyday, for a certain number of days, things you are grateful for. This is the same concept.
So now every morning when I walk the dog, I think in my head – here are the five things I am grateful/thankful for today. It could be as small as the sweet 11 year old German Shepherd rescue that I am so lucky “rescued” me, or as profound as receiving news that a son is having a baby and I am going to be a grandmother!
You and I – if we put our minds to it – have alot to be grateful/thankful for. We just need to focus on those things more than the complaints. So logical, but so glad that I was reminded of this. Much easier to be a complainer, but much healthier to be full of thankfulness.
Are you up to the challenge???
A Resolution – – – 8 Months Late?
I came across a “saying” the other day that I recognized from my (much) younger years. It’s something my Father used to always say. I knew it was french, I knew it must be some kind of a toast because of the times he used it – but I never asked the definition.
It ties with a mid year resolution I started working on in June.
The saying?
“A Votre Sante”
The definition?
“To your health”
The resolution?
To get back in good shape and be healthy in my choices.
(OK – so maybe I’m eating a chocolate chip cookie as I sit here and compose this but hey, I wouldn’t wanna not reward myself for the 12,619 steps I’ve already gotten today and it’s only 3:00!)
My Father was a bit of a health nut, before it was “in”. He jogged and did calisthenics before people knew what that was. He was always moving, and very conscious of what he ate. As a veteran of WW II and Korea, he’d had enough of fake food and anything processed or out of a can. We had green salads, and fresh veggies with every meal.
An occasional Friday dinner of fish sticks and tater tots was artfully heated on the same cookie sheet – heaven for my brother and I. And when I babysat my brother? Pot Pies – (with crust on top AND bottom) delish!
But when I saw this saying the other day, it made me flash back to those healthier days, and my Father and how important his health (and just being alive) meant to him. Every day is a gift, and we should all want to be healthy in our choices.
So 8 months after most people made their resolutions, I’m working on mine. I am resolute to become a healthier woman in both my mind, my spirit, my choices and my body.
I think my Father would cheer me on with a toast . . . “a votre sante”!
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