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New Beginnings – 2021

What a crazy beginning to the year. And we thought we just had to worry about a pandemic.

Is it just me? Or does the world seem to have gone completely sideways?

Remember when you used to hear, “Can’t we all just get along?”

Obviously not. No one truly wants to. I worry for our world. And I pray for it’s citizens.

Wishing you all, and myself . . . some peace.

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Happiest Of New Years!!

We deserve it. After a year of pandemic, political nastiness and more – I’m exhausted.

Besides that, as if that wasn’t enough, we all had additional things we had to cope with.

For me personally, it was a year trying to probate my Mom’s estate and having it drag on WAY longer than it should have. 14 months later, we’re still dealing with attorney issues – note to self – you WILL get through this.

I also made a huge personal decision to move in 2021. Not just changing houses, but changing states. I have (warning – double negative!) never not lived in this city and state. It’s 50% exciting and 50% terrifying. It felt like the right decision, but the closer it gets – I begin to have doubts. Or . . . am I just scared? People do it all the time . . .

Cleaning out has begun. Normally in a new year, I get organized, even more so than normal. I clean out, donate, repurpose, start again. This year will be much more “final”. When I think back over all the changes since my divorce, the really large ones have seemed to be forced upon me. I kept my chin up and powered through.

This time it feels different. This time it feels even more forced. This time it will be harder to keep my chin up because my beautiful “freedom and new beginnings” home that I built and moved into post divorce . . . will be gone. It was my statement of surviving being “suddenly single”. It was my statement of independence. It was my statement of being “out from under” the thumb of control. It was showing my children that “I got this”!

I know I’ll be OK. I know there are folks out there who are suffering from much bigger things than what I complain about, but it still is very real to me. It’s why you haven’t heard from me as consistently as you used to. Processing all of these changes during normal times is hard. 2020 has been a train wreck.

I will get through it, we all will get through it. I have my first “vaccine” next week, that’s a step in the right direction. While the clean out continues, my kids would like some of my things, that’s a happy thing – I can visit them, LOL! A bit of me will live on in their homes. I got to start my grand daughter in riding lessons – my passion passed to a new generation.

I’ll list the positives, and I’ll pray for all of us that 2021 becomes the year of kinder and gentler, of health and prosperity, of believing that all human and animal lives are important. Happy New Year to each of you.

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Walking Away . . .

As we enter the busy and crazy holiday season, we can be pulled in so many different directions. Newsflash: people can be VERY selfish and demanding.

This time – take care of yourself. This time – put your needs first. It’s OK. After the year we’ve had, you deserve it. Let’s all be healthier together!

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“That’s A Given” – – –

Well, you haven’t heard from me for a while. Most of the summer I think we were all trying to figure out the “new normal”, if in fact we can even use the word “normal”.

I’ve lost people from the “dam”demic; I’ve been exposed twice but never came down with it. Does this make me feel like just holding my breath? Yes, so right.

Did the whole election process throw us for a loop on top of the health crisis? Yes, more than ever. Are we looking for a leader to lead, regardless of party affiliation? A clear winner? GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!

I vote for a soccer Mom, they get the job done.

A friend forwarded the video from years ago of “We Are The World”. I tried to connect it to this post – SIGH! Technologically challenged today. The whole WordPress.com site has changed their format so – it will take me a while to get comfortable with it again. I don’t like change . . . “That’s A Given”.

The sentiment in that song from yesteryear is still the same. We Are The World – and we can do a better job. And it starts with me/you/us.

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After Last Night’s Presidential Debate – – –

I don’t know many people who didn’t watch it . . . so I’ve been holding this post for a time I thought was appropriate, and after last night, I think it’s “time” to share.

No matter your political leanings, IMHO, last night was a circus, and not in a fun way.  Today I search for a kind of peace that may not be possible, but this tidbit shared with me by my buddy Diva J is certainly needed.

I hope you too can find some peace amongst the chaos that has been 2020.

 

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Fun “Differences” – – –

There is no doubt, this has been “one of those years” and I’m pretty sure we’re ready for it to “move on”!  So while we are being made painfully aware of all our racial, gender and political differences, I share below a fun list . . . of differences.

It’s relevant in my own extended family, over the pronunciation of the word “Aunt”.  How many of these have you run across?

https://www.wordgenius.com/14-words-youll-say-differently-depending-on-where-you-are-in-the-u-s/Xr0yWBPAJQAG8w-R?utm_source=blog

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Love When My Followers “Share”! Thanks Diva J

I want to age like sea glass.
Smoothed by tides,
but not broken.
I want my hard edges to soften.
I want to ride the waves
and go with the flow.
I want to catch a wave
and let it carry me
to where I belong.
I want to be picked up
and held gently by
those who delight in my
well earned patina and
appreciate the changes I went
through to achieve that beauty.
I want to enjoy the journey
and always remember that if
you give the ocean something
breakable it will turn it into
something beautiful.
I want to age like sea glass.

~ Bernadette Noll ~

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Will We Ever Be Open To Travel Again?

Several “posts” ago, I shared an article about the difficulty of traveling if you’re “on your own”.  It’s not just an issue for single people, some married ladies (my Mom was one of them) would love to travel but they’re held back by a spouse that does not share the passion for adventure.

I found the article below online through Travel & Leisure and thought it definitely inspiring and encouraging.   Most of their “points” are common sense, but it’s always good to remind ourselves of some of them.

When the world re-opens (“praying hands emoji”), I hope many of us will once again answer the call to “wander” a bit while we’re still “able” to get around.

Thanks for following and as usual, stay safe out there.

 

https://www.travelandleisure.com/trip-ideas/senior-travel/senior-travel-mistakes-to-avoid?did=548994-20200809&utm_campaign=just-in_newsletter&utm_source=travelandleisure.com&utm_medium=email&utm_content=080920&cid=548994&mid=38613043959

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As Travel Opens Up More?

I’ve been wanting to share this, but during the pandemic crisis, and shutdowns for the travel industry, it wasn’t the right time.   Now that things are easing a bit, and people are feeling safer (as a result of going stir crazy no doubt) I am pulling this “share” out to share.

It was an article I read in the AARP magazine that really made me realize I’m not the only one who sees how much it is a “couples world”.   No where is this more obvious than in restaurant dining and travel.  Those two things were really hit hard starting last Spring when the world shut down.

To quote the opening of the article by Christina Ianzito:

“The number of women wanting female-only trips has skyrocketed in recent years, with companies like Damesly, Whoa Travel and Living Big Travel devoted entirely to such excursions.  Other long-standing tour operators including Intrepid Travel and Road Scholar, now provide these kinds of trips in addition to their other ones.

Some women say they’d feel like a fifth wheel being single among a bunch of couples, and that a wonderful camaraderie develops when guys aren’t around.”

For years I’ve had one very special friend who travels alone or with other women friends (looking at you LL!) and has not let being alone hold her adventurous spirit hold her back!  What a fab role model she is to her three adult daughters.  What an inspiration she is to me!

So if wanderlust is knocking on your door, go check out the above companies (also including REI Women’s Adventures) and read up on popular “women-only” getaways!!  Maybe I’ll see you one day soon!!

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Ahhhh – Summertime, Summertime, Sum Sum Summertime!

(hopefully the tune hit your brain, LOL??)

One thing the start of the pandemic, the shutdowns, etc did for many was to help them clear all their “lists” of things to watch on every TV watching service available.

Whether it’s a DVR, a streaming service, a Netflix DVD – we were watching a multitude of things to fill the time.  Back in January it was something happening elsewhere.   Then it hit here.  What do you do when you hunker down?

TV programming!

I jotted down this from one of the many shows I watched, then forgot about it.   I uncovered it the other day and remembered I wanted to share it.   It made me chuckle.   We all need a good chuckle every now and again, right?

Not saying this is how you should approach life, but hey – if the shoe fits . . . . ?

“Not dealing with things is my preferred way of dealing with things”!

Wish I could remember which show I heard it on, I watched so many but there you have it.   Hope it brought a slight chuckle to you today.  (I think the heat is getting to me!)

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