Becoming the best version of yourself

Welcome 2018! My Resolution? Simple – –

Easy?  Nah!  Do-able?  Yeah!

Forget resolving to lose the same 10 pounds, they’re with me for the duration!

Putting a smile on my face and look out, because here I come world . . .

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New Year’s Eve – A Favorite . . .

. . . and boy am I in the minority.  I like to go someplace festive and celebrate.  Most of my friends want to stay in – I stay in all the time so to me, I want to be with happy, fun people to welcome in the New Year.

Think of all the possibilities for all the wonderful things that might happen to you in 2018?

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it, with a glass of bubbly in my hand!

I didn’t reach my goal of 100 followers by year’s end – bummer.  So if you know of just one friend you could share this blog with?  I bet I can get to 100 in 2018!  What are your 2018 goals?

See you on the flip side, love my followers – CHEERS!!


Happy Holiday Weekend To All –


With much love and gratitude to my followers for the past five years, I send you a gift of peace and joy over the next few days.  No matter your celebration choice, know that you mean the world to me.


The Holi”daze” Is Ramping Up – – –

So here’s a little “giggle” to put a smile on your exhausted face!

(If the link doesn’t work here, copy and paste in your browser!)      And remember – – –

Don’t let the craziness of the season cause you to forget the real reason we celebrate!

And just a few extra thoughts for this year:

If you run outta wrapping paper, recycle some newspaper or use a cute bag!

If you forgot a gift and it’s last minute – give a “one free lunch after the New Year just so we can visit” IOU!

If you have a “hard to buy for” relative that already has everything?  A photobook brings joy all year ’round.   From the grandkids to past adventures you’ve shared, it’s a gift that keeps on giving!

If you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, find a Holiday musical program at a church nearby, attend and just – – – listen!

If you want to feel festive “for free”? – gather the family, some hot chocolate, and drive through the neighborhoods with holiday lights a’glow!   Wave at your neighbor and spread good cheer!

If you want to do good and don’t know how or where, find an organization or a church that offers “adopt a family” and take your kids shopping for someone else who may not have a bright holiday this year.

If you shop in bulk at Sam’s or Costco, or just need to clean out your pantry – donate to your local Food Bank!

Spread the warmth and glow of the season, be the difference in a person’s day, make a change and be the change.   Happiest of Holidays to all of you from me!

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The Season of Thanksgiving!

Are we still in it?

Logic would tell me that we should be in it all year round, it’s just more visible this time of the year?

I saw a quote the other day:  “Gratitude is the Attitude that sets the Altitude for living”, by James MacDonald.

His premise is that you can live in the depressing low-lands of the world, or have a high-altitude attitude!  Sounds good, but is it really that easy?

He says that living in this high-altitude attitude is up where the air is clean, the sun is shining and the future is bright, where life soars above and refuses to focus on the negative.   I jokingly think that all I have to do to find that attitude, is drive to the mountains to get that feeling, but seriously . . .

How nice would it be to have that attitude 365 days of each year?  How refreshing would it be to surround yourself with people who have that attitude as well?

They say change begins with you, and I personally happen to see the benefit to living a higher altitude attitude.  I’m “over” the negative nellies who are so unhappy that they choose to bring you down as well.  I’m sorry for them, I do empathize with them, but do not want to be around them.

It’s a constant effort – but so worth it.  I am thankful for all the positiveness around me; I am thankful that 2017 has been so much happier than 2016.  That feels so odd to say since 2016 was the year I accomplished my goal of publishing my book, and became an Amazon Best Selling author.

I am hopeful that we can all live a season of Thanksgiving – all year round.  The view in that higher altitude is pretty darned spectacular!

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Complaining – It’s Everywhere . . .

Recently I wrote about changing your attitudes, being more positive!  Safe to say, I have less than positive feelings about complaining!

People who complain alot – do they really think that’s going to change anything?  I’ve admitted in the past that I used to REALLY complain about bad drivers.  EGAD – where are these people from?  But I have made a concerted effort lately to not let it rattle me as much.

(Is that called “practice what you preach”?)

Are you hurting the other person?  Nope.  Are you changing the other person’s behavior?  Most likely not.  Complaining hurts me; it leads to anger, headaches, bitterness, negativity, raised blood pressure, and I’m pretty sure my eyes cross and I get those frown wrinkles between my brows.  Botox anyone?

I found a definition of the action:  “Complaining is expressing dissatisfaction with a circumstance that is not wrong and about which I’m doing nothing to correct.”

Just because it’s wrong in my opinion, does it necessarily make it wrong?  Deep thoughts to leave you with:

Criticism involves people; complaining involves circumstances.”

In the season of Thanksgiving, definitely something to be aware of as we go about our busy daily lives.


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Giving Thanks For All Of You!

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Thought For The Day (and always):

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Some Patterns Are Good . . . Others? Not So Much

I’m a “former” teacher.  I was always looking for patterns of good behavior.  I rewarded that good behavior, did the same as a mother when my sons were young.  The ol’ saying you can catch alot more flies with honey than vinegar was alive and well growing up in my house.

Don’t get me wrong, bad behavior was dealt with, I didn’t just ignore it, but I really really searched out the positive to draw attention to.

A book I completed this summer really had me focusing on attitudes, and how pervasive they are in our lives – both yours, and those around you.  One of the sub-topics in the book was:

“Attitudes are patterns of thinking formed over a long period of time.”

Could it be that those same attitudes are learned by mimicking those people we are around the most?

If you exhibit good behavior, and surround yourself with those who also show good behavior, does it then become a pattern of life?  Wouldn’t that be nice?

As I read in this book:

“Our attitudes are patterns of thinking – formed over a long period of time.  Wrong attitudes are hard to change because they are habitual, harmful ways of thinking about life and circumstances.  Patterns of thinking are so deeply ingrained in our hearts that we hardly even notice them.  We get so used to reacting a certain way that our choices become automatic, and in time we cease to see them as actual choices.  We feel like we are trapped, but we are not.  Tragically, the consequences are also automatic, and that is the cycle that we are trying to break.”

Thing is, we may have a bad attitude, we may be surrounded by alot of bad attitude, but we can change it.   The author offered this:  “You can’t change an attitude until you admit you chose it. But if you’re willing to say, “I choose my attitude,” then a different choice becomes your option.  By admitting you made the choice, you put yourself in a position to make a different choice next time.”

There has been SOOOOO very much negativity in our country over the past year.    If these people were my students, I’d be bald by now from pulling my hair out looking for the positive behaviors to reward.  At least I know I can own my behavior, and change it if need be.

Can you share a good attitude today . . . and make it a pattern?

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A “Share” From One of the “Smilingest” People I Know!

A while back, I got an email from my sweet friend CS with a great “share” idea!  We all want to smile, we all want to be happy.  So maybe below, might be a few ways to help us find our smile again!



Is the beauty “secret” we take for granted, the one we struggle with and the one we rely on others for, on top of your list?

I am thinking it is happiness, with a capital H.


Happiness is directly related to inner beauty and our inner beauty is what truly makes us shine.

It is easy to take happiness as a given and it’s not; it is not something we should ever rely on.  Life is messy and unpredictable every single day and we never know what might be coming our way. Our “guaranteed” happiness can be snuffed out in an instant.


What is important to know is happiness will re-appear but it might not happen alone. It is a work in progress and like most of what is worth pursuing, it takes practise.


Some people would seem to be born with a penchant for happiness.

They make happy look effortless as if cares and troubles are not on their radar. It’s not true; everyone has problems, tragedies and disappointments to overcome. We are not immune and it is a question of how we deal with darkness that makes or breaks.


The simple pleasure of feeling happy can oftentimes seem to be unattainable, but in my experience, all it takes is a little know-how and dedication.


How do we re-discover happiness?


Happiness starts with ourselves.

It is important to look within to find our own contentment and ultimate joy and we cannot depend on others to do the work for us. I try and reconnect with old pleasures that brought a smile in the past; it is so easy to forget when they are lost in the layers of everyday life. Once we understand our own happiness we can share it with others and pay it forward. It is a quality that has no bounds and no limits and truly, more is more.


Happiness is not a given.

We won’t necessarily wake up happy each and every day. Life intervenes and moods can swing and good spirits can require routine and perseverance. Expectations should be realistic so we don’t set ourselves up for disappointment. It is okay to have a bad day, a day where nothing seems promising. The art is to recognise, define and accept those feelings and to be aware they will not be permanent.


Happiness is about the practical.

A problem solved is one way to feeling happier. Losing the weight of worry can help us channel our brighter feelings. Dealing with problems and compartmentalising, so they don’t suck the positivity from our lives, is an important skill.


I find exercise is one way to relieve stress and allow happiness its rightful place. The other is to spoil ourselves in ways that please; to do what you enjoy not what you think you should be doing. Read the romance novel if it brings a smile, the Economist can wait. Watch the latest TV series in a binge; the housekeeping is going nowhere. Treat yourself in small ways and see huge effects. Use escapism to re-set the balance and recover some light heartedness, remembering it is a short-term fix.


Happiness breeds happiness.

Spending time with others who are upbeat is like an injection of positivity and nothing feels better than being around happy, I find it is infectious. The opposite can be said for those who view the glass half full.


Happiness in small bites.

Happiness does not always come super sized, life does not allow for that. Take the small wins and be thankful for those. We need happiness to be attainable, not elusive. There is much to be gained from small blessings.


Happiness and appreciation.

We can appreciate the beauty around us or we can ignore it. I choose to appreciate the beauty in the everyday and I acknowledge some days are harder than others. The smallest glimpse can elevate our mood and release happiness. It may be fleeting at times, but in my view it all counts. It is about riches but not about wealth. I have known those with so much who have so little and those with so little who have so much. I try and believe if we are grateful for the small, the rest will follow.



Happiness, there is no better feeling. xv

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