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Remember Those Who Served And Gave Everything – – –

My Father was an “Army Man”.    He served in WWII and Korea.  My parent’s wedding actually had to be moved up due to his being “called up” for Korea.  My Mom, born in East Texas having jobs eventually in Corpus Christi and then Houston – where she met my Father, suddenly had to change all her wedding plans then pack up and head to Lacrosse, Wisconsin where his regiment was called up to prepare.  When your country called, you went – no questions asked.

It was never convenient, and rarely went as “planned”.  There’s a reason that they’re called “The Greatest Generation”.   They didn’t pout, protest or go on Twitter rants.  They served their country; there was a belief in a higher cause.  We lost alot of good men and women.

So today, we honor those who honored us so selflessly by giving their lives for our freedoms, for our “way of life” in America.   No matter your politics, today – put away your hate and let us remember those we lost and give them the honor they deserve.

I’m lucky that my Father came back, I wouldn’t be here if he hadn’t.  Today I pray for those families not as lucky as mine.  Memorial Day pays them the respect they deserve.  Let’s honor their memory.   My flag is flying.

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Do We Need Closer Friendships?

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Beauty, Not Just In The Eye Of The Beholder – – –

https://vickiarcher.com/2019/10/best-kept-beauty-secrets-q-a-2/

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Between 65 And Death

via Between 65 And Death

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Shouldn’t This Be At Any Age?

https://shar.es/a3dPKB

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Channeling Tim Allen’s “Tool Time”?

What do tools have to do with being a suddenly single woman?  HA!!  If you have to ask you must live in a totally maintenance free high rise.  For the rest of us, all of a sudden we’re having to “maintain” and repair things someone else used to do (or if you were with a non-handy person, you hired it done).  If you want to become more self sufficient, you need help!

Think of the savings from hiring it done, if you just have You Tube and the right tools!  I share this link with you to do a bit of “filling out” from the tool/junk drawer that we all have/had!  Good luck and let’s “get fixin'”!!

 

https://www.realsimple.com/home-organizing/home-improvement/tool-box-essentials?utm_source=emailshare&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=email-share-video&utm_content=20190123

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Final Thoughts For A New Decade #9 – – –

I AM ENOUGH!

So, . . . it’s bolded and capitalized.

Yes I am.

If you’ve never lived or worked or associated yourself with a person or persons who do not think you are enough?  Lucky you.

If you have, I’m sorry.

I have.

It’s taken me a long time to appreciate my worth as a person, as a friend, as a member of a family unit.

How are you feeling today?  Are you feeling like you are enough?  My hopes for all of us is that we continue to put ourselves in the best environments and situations where we are able to realize our full potential, and grow to know we are enough.

As the “social distancing” continues, we’ve been given the gift of time to do more self reflection.  Be safe everyone.

Glow from within my fiends.  You are enough!

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Thoughts For A New Decade #8 – – –

I have the right to express my needs honestly

“Honestly” – that’s an interesting way of putting this thought.  Does not doing it honestly mean you alter those needs because no one around you is going to help fulfill those needs unless you make it easy for them?  Or does it mean you alter your needs to fit their needs, their timing, their opinions of your needs?

Doesn’t it really just mean to be yourself, take care of yourself, and if you need something more from a family member, a friend, a partner you are honest in opening up to them?

My Father used to say that honesty is the best policy.  Bet you heard that one too when you were growing up and learning to be your own person.

If those that you surround yourself are too busy filling their own needs to concern themselves with any of yours, maybe it is time to alter the way you seek to fulfill your personal needs with those same people.  Maybe they are just totally unaware that you need a bit more attention.

And perhaps if you make decisions about those close to you without giving them the opportunity to learn of your needs, and your frustrations, it’s being unfair to them.   Or maybe you need to seek out a more caring and thoughtful group of people to be around.

This one is a tough one.  Lately I have begun to be more vocal in the things I need, seek, in friends and family.  If something bothers me, I’m trying to be more “honest” and open about it, JUST IN CASE those friends and family do not realize.

And then . . . if they chose not to care, I have my answer.

 

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Thoughts For A New Decade #7 – – –

“I have a right to my own feelings”

See #5!   Ha!  JK!

There are alot of similarities, but I think feelings tend to go a bit deeper than opinions.

Feelings can give your emotions a real roller coaster ride.

Any feelings can change at any given moment.  I can be “feeling” really down, and then something really cool happens and the dreary just vanishes.

And vice versa . . .

One of the mantras of my book was having the right to your own feelings.  I also shared how much I detested it (is that too strong?) when people would tell me to just “move on”.  Like . . . really?

We’re all going to have personal feelings that others do not agree with, or understand.   Lest you judge, I’m pretty sure we’ve all been guilty of wondering why/how someone can be so caught up with their emotions and feelings and cannot get over it.

Time, patience, empathy – that’s what you really need, or need to offer.  You have a right to your own feelings, you feel me?

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Day 3 Of “Complying” —

Just saw this on FB and had to share.

Please stay safe out there everyone.  Use your best judgement and we can flatten that curve!

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