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Loving Being Single??

on October 24, 2014

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t.  The truth is – I AM SINGLE!!!  OK, got that out there.  Sometimes I just have to come to grips with the fact that I am “single” through little fault of my own.  I have to adjust – EVERYTHING!

I don’t adjust well.  I like routine, I like pattern, I like boundaries.  I am a better person when I have a plan and no what tomorrow is “supposed” to bring.  When life throws me a loop, I get knocked over.  I don’t like it, I don’t appreciate it and I’m certainly not enjoying it.

Having no one to fight over the remote with can be a positive.  It’s nice to know if I get up in the middle of the night to use the restroom that the lid to the toilet will be down – just the way I left it the last time I used it.  I enjoy squeezing my toothpaste from the bottom and not having to push out the dents in the “middle of the tube” from the former spouse’s thumb!

When I come downstairs in the morning, the house is just the same as the way I left it when I went to bed – NICE!  So OK, I know there are some positives.  But if truth be told – I hate being single.  I hate going to events alone.  When I walk in I feel as if I have a big sign around my neck that says:  CAN’T GET A DATE!!!!!  And that would be true.

I really don’t enjoy being the only one responsible for helping myself through a crisis.  Car breaks down??  Yup – I have to figure out what to do and how to do it without any help.  How do I know if the mechanic is being honest or not?  I don’t.  I sometimes think I could have a heart attack and fall down the stairs and not have anyone miss me, or wonder why they hadn’t heard from me for at least several days.  I’m pretty sure by then I’d be d-e-a-d dead.

The link below will give you some thoughts to ponder in your own personal situation.  For myself?  I’m giving myself permission to hate being single, to not like being alone most nights.  I wish I shared my life with someone special, and maybe someday I will.  Till then the truth is – I AM SINGLE and I’m going to need to learn to trust the auto mechanic . . .

http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2014/06/03/absolutely-okay-say-hate-single/?lcid=95156&laid=Links#.U5chOBYQ5Qo

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One response to “Loving Being Single??

  1. Jinx Chiles says:

    Do NOT trust the auto mechanic, or anyone else…….”IN GOD I TRUST, AND NO ONE ELSE…”
    JuST opinions from as many other competitors as you can……you will be amazed at the dif. each one tells you.
    It is HARD being a single woman and very lonely…….but, I would be rather be here than with most of the spouses I see other women with. I wouldn’t climb into bed with the for any thing. And then, all the women moving in with men when they aren’t even married….I wonder why those guys aren’t married??????
    I have known many prominent and infamous people and I hardly know one man that hasn’t, or isn’t cheating on his wife; the wives just look the other way, because they love their life style too much. Is that what I want for my life?????? It never will be……..
    This is a thing that happened to us in life–we lost our “beloved” partners, but would we trade this travesty to some that others have?????? I always say NO! I try to find happiness in God, rather than the things that I “luckily” had for a while. Most marriages are miserable; even tho, people will never admit things are just “swell.”

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