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Dec 11

Ahhhh – Welcome To The Holidaze!!

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Did you survive Thanksgiving?? I’d forgotten what it felt like to have a food coma, LOL!! There were 11 kids (ages 1 – 14) and 15 adults (ages to remain secret); we outnumbered them but the energy levels are certainly different. It was a blast.

Now we’re into the Holiday mode in preparation for Christmas and all that entails. I’m burning off the calories from that food coma, and probably should burn some extra for round two.

There’s more than two feet of snow on the ground; we’ve officially entered winter/ski season here in the mountains. Burrrrrrr!!

During this time of year, we are around alot more family and friends than normal, there is alot of giving and receiving – mostly good, sometimes not. It’s hard to keep an even keel especially when we might just be overly tired yet trying so hard to be perfect. Toss the perfect.

I read this earlier this morning and it really caused me to stop and reflect. There is no author to attribute it to but this was the notification on the site:

“Someone said to me,

You like taking care of people because it heals the part of you that needed someone to take care of you.

That hit me hard.”

I am not a therapist, but that’s not the first time that I’ve had something similar suggested to me. So as I enter the crazy of the holidaze, I might try something a bit different this year, and really try to meet my needs and take care of my happy. Stay tuned . . .

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Nov 13

National Kindness Day!

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Yup – heard it on the radio so it must be true. It’s National Kindness Day. But not only that, in my daily devotional today I quote from the writer:

“Conviction filled my heart. Proverbs 11:16 came to mind: “A gracious woman attains honor.” Graciousness is honorable because it is truly difficult to be gracious – meaning kind, courteous, and merciful – in every situation. I purposed to make a conscious effort to be gracious in my speech by speaking encouraging and uplifting words to my husband, my kids and my friends; in my attitude by striving to be more patient and forgiving when people make mistakes; and in my actions by giving people a smile or friendly greeting.”

So it didn’t take me long to pick up that the universe was sending me a message. I heard it twice. Be kind. Be gracious.

Promise!!

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Nov 4

Words To Live By!

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It seems so simple, yet in the throws of hurt and disappointment, hard to live by.

I haven’t forgotten you all, it has just been a very busy Fall with travel – both a long trip and several short ones. Many fun adventures with time to reflect on just how lucky I am in comparison to those who cannot “move on”.

As I said early on in this “blog”, and later in my published “book” adventure – we move on at our own pace. No one can or should tell us just how quickly that happens. The glory is when you can sit back and realize that it DID happen!

Here’s to living your very best life, whatever that may be. I have faith in all of us.

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Jul 18

What A Crazy Week – (If you start from last Saturday)

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No matter your political leanings, you have to admit it’s been kinda crazy the past few days. Though I didn’t see the severity of what was coming, we all knew this was going to get contentious.

We should care less about what “side” we’re on and more about the way we live our lives – love and compassion and understanding and tolerance. Am I back in kindergarten where I’m having to learn to share and play nice after being the center of the universe for my first 4-5 years?

I KNOW we’re better than this. I watch how loving and kind my grandchildren are because no one has shown them the hate. “That’s MINE!” gets worked out, and generally they get bored with it anyway.

Have you noticed how no one says “I’m sorry” or takes accountability anymore? Have you noticed how entitled everyone seems to think they are?

Take a step back, be grateful, be thankful, be kind and considerate, smile at a stranger, hold a door, let someone cut in line even if you were there first, pay it forward but PLEASE – let’s be better than this.

Put your love glasses on!!

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Jun 8

So – – – Kinda Funny . . .

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I received an email today from American Express. They wanted to thank me and celebrate my anniversary with them. We’ve been “together” for 40 years.

My first thought?? That’s longer than my marriage!! : -0

Also much less stress, more responsive to my needs and easier to deal with.

(Sorry, couldn’t resist . . .)

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Jun 2

I’m Not Getting Any Younger – – –

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So I’ve decided, not only was relocating an adventure . . . and getting a “last horse” to reclaim my riding passion an adventure . . . and clearing the house of unnecessary and unneeded items/clothes, etc an adventure . . . and re-establishing boundaries in relationships an adventure . . . but also making travel plans as a new potential adventure. What am I waiting for?

Whether it’s discovering via automobile my newly adopted home state of Colorado, and picking one new city/town per year to visit?? Or it requires an airplane ride and possibly even a passport, I’m not getting any younger – what am I waiting for?

Last year it was Crested Butte, Colorado for my new home state adventure. I also went to Italy for the BIG birthday as a “passport required” adventure. So fun, so worthwhile, and made me feel so brave and adventurous.

What I’m getting around to, is sharing with you this travel tip from a blog I recently started following thanks to my friend Diva J, who recommended it to me. I wanted to share with you all this really cool packing “Sudoku” grid that hopefully changes the suitcase situation.

I just committed to another “passport required” adventure with a former neighbor of mine, who lost her roommate due to health issues. We’re off this Fall to England, Scotland and Ireland. Once I did Australia and New Zealand in 2020, my new number one bucket list item became Ireland. When she mentioned where this trip was going, she had me at “Ireland”.

So here’s the link to the packing Sudoku grid. I can see this being an awesome method to use no matter where you’re going, how long you’re staying, or who is toting your luggage, HA!

Let me know what you think! Til then, what are YOU waiting for??

https://thesmarttravelguide.com/how-to-create-a-sudoku-travel-capsule-wardrobe/

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May 7

Words To Live By – – –

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Apr 30

Fact: Stay Classy!

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Recently had this shared on my FB page and loved loved loved it. When I was young, I noticed, since my parents were older (and therefore had older friends), that many of the women were kinda crabby all the time. I always swore that wouldn’t be me.

Then I got older and started to understand why. Life not where you thought it would be? Your dreams unanswered? People disappoint you? Is this all there is?

Hard to do, but worth trying. We can all try to “remain classy” as we work our way through the disappointments caused by friends, family and the universe. Enjoy these helpful hints and see (not judging, I’m equally as guilty) if maybe there’s one there that you can work on.

(And hoping that my “copy/paste” from FB – to this blog works, LOL! I’m old – but not crabby!!)

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02Ss27WAku7yArfFWpQKN8PeCXX6vvqwGeDe82rbCPv89BnZGxqci7cyBmXrk9PJ44l&id=668774017

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Apr 24

Who You Callin’ Old??

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I got a kick outta this article the other day. We’ve all been thinking this for a while now. We’re living longer, and feeling younger. At least I hope you are?

Of course it takes a “study” of some kind to prove what we’ve known for a while now. Being active, thinking young, and surrounding yourself with like minded people – all this helps keep us vital both mentally and physically.

Drives my son’s crazy that at my age, I’m still riding horses and on the occasion, jumping them around a course of obstacles. Heck, just climbing up on the back of an 1100 pound animal with attitude is sometimes challenging. But it’s my passion, and my passion just happens to be pretty physically and mentally challenging at times.

Give the article a read and see if you can see yourself in it! Meanwhile, I’m going to get back to researching and planning my next adventure this Fall with friends “of a certain age” who still enjoy crossing an ocean and discovering other countries. After all, we’re not getting any younger . . .

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/heres-when-people-think-old-age-begins–and-why-experts-think-its-starting-later-130028087.html?soc_src=social-sh&soc_trk=ma

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Mar 24

Book Backlog – – –

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I used to love to read, holding a real book, the smell of the paper when you get it new. Sure, years ago I ordered a Kindle – seemed “with it”. Everyone had one, especially for plane travel. Then after a real lack of use, for some unknown reason I upgraded several years ago to the new version “Paper White”. It still sits in the bedside nightstand shelf, dead battery and all. You see, there’s this stack of real books I haven’t gotten to yet.

So a 2024 resolution is to get through some of those books. I’m doing pretty well. Truth be told, as I read some of them, I wonder . . . now why did I buy this?? However, the latest one has charmed me and made me laugh out loud multiple times. It’s been around for a bit, and clearly someone gifted this to me as they know of my love of canines. I present to you: “Lessons From Lucy – The Simple Joys of an Old, Happy Dog”. The author is a familiar name: Dave Barry.

As promised from my last post, this is light hearted and a feel-good share. I do encourage you to read it in it’s entirety, yes – even if on a Kindle, because there were a few times where I laughed so hard that I had tears, but below I share it’s finer points for a quick “lesson” in being joyful.

  1. Make New Friends. (And Keep the Ones You Have)
  2. Don’t Stop Having Fun. (And If You Have Stopped, Start Having Fun Again)
  3. Pay Attention to the People You Love. (Not Later. Right Now)
  4. Let Go of Your Anger, Unless It’s About Something Really Important, Which It Almost Never Is.
  5. Try Not to Judge People by Their Looks, and Don’t Obsess Over Your Own.
  6. Don’t Let Your Happiness Depend on Things; They Don’t Make You Truly Happy, and You’ll Never Have Enough Anyway.
  7. Don’t Lie Unless You Have a Really Good Reason, Which You Probably Don’t.
  8. Be Grateful for What You Have. (It’s Probably More Than You Think)

When Dave Barry wrote this book (and he’s written many) he was turning 70. Of course the book was published in 2019 (told you I was behind) but since I just turned 70 I took it as a “sign” that I was meant to read it at this time. I’m thinking of printing these “lessons” out and sticking on my refrigerator door so that I can be reminded on a daily basis of ways to be more joyful.

I hope you’ll enjoy these Lucy lessons as much as I did.

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