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Happy New Year Y’all

2024 – How? I can still remember the IT panic of crossing into the next century and now it’s 24 years later? Wow, where did the time go? Much has changed in my life since that New Year’s Eve heading into 2000. I was in Steamboat Springs, CO with my family – ringing in the New Year, pretty confident that my computer was not going to crash or implode but hey, strange things do happen.

Neither of my son’s were married yet, one in college one in high school. I was still married, things had starting going south but I didn’t know it yet. There were still two new houses ahead of me that I didn’t know about yet, there was the promise of my “first” horse when we got back to TX, honestly? The world was looking pretty durn good though my eyes.

A new year always gives us a chance to “look back” as well as “look ahead”. It’s time to re-right a ship that might be listing. It’s time for attitude adjustments to make this year better than last. Learn from our mistakes by not making them again. Get healthier, get happier and learn to enjoy each day. So from my humble laptop to you:

H – Help someone less fortunate than you

A – Always say please and thank you

P – Pick your battles, they say it’s better to win the war

P – Put your own house in order before you criticize others

Y – Yes, bad things happen but you are made of stronger stuff – keep on

N – Never give up your dreams

E – Eat more healthy and be less wasteful with what you buy, prepare and do put on your plate

W – Wellness, focus on taking care of your body and your mind

Y – Yearly assessments of your life, make adjustments – right that listing ship

E – Every day, love yourself

A – Always check in with friends and family, time goes by too fast to put it off

R – Remember, it can start with you

Wishing my followers the best in 2024, thanks for always being my safety net.

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They Say You Can Never Go Home Again – – –

I suppose it depends on your definition of going home.

The past three years, I’ve spent the month of November back in Texas. (Also the reason there are not many posts here on this site from me during that time) After moving to the mountains of Colorado full time in the summer of ’21, I was told by many that it wouldn’t last. After all, I no longer skied and it’s dang cold here for quite a few months. I didn’t have the friend base or connections that I had enjoyed for 40+ years; I didn’t have all the volunteer connections and opportunities that I had worked on for 30+ years. But I was willing to try and just wear plenty of layers from November through May. And yes, I have been here when it’s snowed on the 4th of July. (eye roll)

I lived in and loved H-Town for most of my life. Born there, raised/reared there, went away to University of Texas for four years but then married there, raised my own family there, worked there, volunteered there, made many friendships there – you name it. I would call Houston “home”.

So is home a physical house? Is home a city you live in or a state of mind?

For many of my Texas friends, home must be where you live because why else do they keep sending me MLS listings for cute small cottages in my old neighborhood, or nearby neighborhoods, to tempt me to come back?

For many, they’ll say you can take the girl outta Texas, but cannot take the Texas outta the girl. That I’ll agree with. I am Texan through and through, and I’m not totally sure – except for maybe New York or California – that there is another state that so totally encompasses a way of living or a way of life.

If home is a state of mind, then that should be you wherever you live. So then why do I continue to go back as often as I do? There is a perfect blend of things that I love that happen in November that justifies my returning. I attend and volunteered at the Houston Ballet Nutcracker Market for so many years that it is a part of my persona. I love Thanksgiving, and the kickoff of the holiday season and doing that with family and extended family is so fun. Of course, there’s Longhorn football – win or lose, I have season tickets and go to the home games and proudly wear the burnt orange. I catch up with friends, lunches and dinners. I attend a few annual fundraisers of causes near and dear to my heart.

And then there are the annual doctor checkups that I’ll schedule, because breaking into the healthcare system in a mountain resort area is challenging at best. Walgreen’s cannot even hire a full time pharmacist because it costs too much for them to live here and the doctors in practice here are no longer taking new patients (and certainly not ones on medicare – UGH!) Lucky for me I’m pretty healthy here and if something happens, well, that’s what Urgent Care and “Doc in a Box” is for – right?? HA! Seriously . . .

Maybe home is a blend of all three – house, location and emotional attachment. Think I’ll just have to canoodle on that a bit more. In the meantime, have a wonderful December, don’t get any paper cuts from all the gift wrapping, remember to smile and treat people with kindness, especially be nice to postal workers and delivery drivers because who would want THEIR jobs at this time of the year.

Enjoy your home, wherever you are – you’re all awesome and so important to me.

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Happy New Year!! Welcome 2023!!

OK – last year was supposed to be THE YEAR!! Ha!! Was coming outta the Covid nightmare and my “move” would go smoothly, and the remodel would be done and the “new” life adventure would get off to a grand start. Weellllllll . . . .

Two vaccines and two boosters later, IT’S still around. My house sale fell apart, I had to change realtors, my remodel wasn’t done yet I moved in on top of it – 2022 was a challenge. But hey – I got this. Don’t I??

So, I’ve had every shot there is to have, my left arm twitches when I go into a clinic or doctor’s office. My new realtor got the house sold in March. I took over the remodel since my contractor disappeared, and got it done in June. (Is it ever truly done??)

2022 saw my football team improve their “win-loss” record from 2021, but expectations were higher. We crushed our nemesis, but then seemed to forget there were still quite a few games left?

2022 saw me fulfill my dream of “one last ride” and I bought my “last” horse. His name is Tango and we’re learning each other. He has quickly become a barn favorite, and his personality is the cutest. (It’s good to be a barn favorite – just sayin’) I have a wonderful new trainer who is patient and gets my goals.

2022 saw me take multiple trips back to Texas and Christmas was spent in California. Grandkids continue to be a highlight and total love fest. They are now 9, 7, 6, 4 and 2. They think I’m fun (who knew??) and they keep me young.

Lastly, as I look back, I took the “Advent of Kindness” (that I previously shared with you all) down off the fridge to see how I did. I failed on #11, tape money on a vending machine – somehow I just couldn’t bring myself to believe someone would actually put it IN the machine?? Is that bad?

I failed at #23, firstly – I don’t have a postal carrier, I have to use a PO BOX up here and the post office was such a nightmare this year, I just wasn’t feeling it?? I sent three identical sized boxes, same contents, to the same address in Houston for my daughter n’laws extended family’s gathering. I used “Click & Ship”. I tracked them. They went from here (Vail) to Grand Junction, Colorado (totally the wrong direction), to Little Rock, Arkansas, to El Paso, Texas, to Amarillo, Texas and then got separated and ended up being delivered on three different days. Their journey took almost two weeks and the last one totally missed the family as they had returned home.

But, I did all the others and it was fun to keep track and give myself a purpose of being kind.

I sincerely hope you all have a wonderful 2023 and just remember to treat people as you wish to be treated. Cheers!!

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Gonna Be A Bear – – –

Closing in on my last boxes from the move. Hey, four months, that isn’t too bad is it??? Have had loads of help from family and friends and my handyman. I am seeing the light at the end of this tunnel!

One of the projects today, and unpacked from the last two boxes, are my scrapbooks. I’ve kept adding to them since the mid 80’s – full of my adventures through non-profit work, fundraising and the family highlights.

Going back through a few of them, I ran across one of my favorite pages – something I’d found quite a while ago, not sure where but . . . I love it and had added it to my keepsakes. No idea where it originated, and there’s no author listed on the page so apologies for not giving full credit. Here goes:

GONNA BE A BEAR

In this life I’m a woman. In my next life, I’d like to come back as a bear. When you’re a bear, you get to hibernate. You do nothing but sleep for six months. I could deal with that.

Before you hibernate, you’re supposed to eat yourself stupid. I could deal with that too.

When you’re a girl bear, you birth your children (who are the size of walnuts) while you’re sleeping and wake to partially grown, cute, cuddly cubs. I could definitely deal with that.

If you’re a mama bear, everyone knows you mean business. You swat anyone who bothers your cubs. If your cubs get out of line, you swat them too. I could deal with that.

If you’re a bear, your mate EXPECTS you to wake up growling. He EXPECTS that you will have hairy legs and excess body fat.

Yup, gonna be a bear!

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After Last Night’s Presidential Debate – – –

I don’t know many people who didn’t watch it . . . so I’ve been holding this post for a time I thought was appropriate, and after last night, I think it’s “time” to share.

No matter your political leanings, IMHO, last night was a circus, and not in a fun way.  Today I search for a kind of peace that may not be possible, but this tidbit shared with me by my buddy Diva J is certainly needed.

I hope you too can find some peace amongst the chaos that has been 2020.

 

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Love When My Followers “Share”! Thanks Diva J

I want to age like sea glass.
Smoothed by tides,
but not broken.
I want my hard edges to soften.
I want to ride the waves
and go with the flow.
I want to catch a wave
and let it carry me
to where I belong.
I want to be picked up
and held gently by
those who delight in my
well earned patina and
appreciate the changes I went
through to achieve that beauty.
I want to enjoy the journey
and always remember that if
you give the ocean something
breakable it will turn it into
something beautiful.
I want to age like sea glass.

~ Bernadette Noll ~

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Will We Ever Be Open To Travel Again?

Several “posts” ago, I shared an article about the difficulty of traveling if you’re “on your own”.  It’s not just an issue for single people, some married ladies (my Mom was one of them) would love to travel but they’re held back by a spouse that does not share the passion for adventure.

I found the article below online through Travel & Leisure and thought it definitely inspiring and encouraging.   Most of their “points” are common sense, but it’s always good to remind ourselves of some of them.

When the world re-opens (“praying hands emoji”), I hope many of us will once again answer the call to “wander” a bit while we’re still “able” to get around.

Thanks for following and as usual, stay safe out there.

 

https://www.travelandleisure.com/trip-ideas/senior-travel/senior-travel-mistakes-to-avoid?did=548994-20200809&utm_campaign=just-in_newsletter&utm_source=travelandleisure.com&utm_medium=email&utm_content=080920&cid=548994&mid=38613043959

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As Travel Opens Up More?

I’ve been wanting to share this, but during the pandemic crisis, and shutdowns for the travel industry, it wasn’t the right time.   Now that things are easing a bit, and people are feeling safer (as a result of going stir crazy no doubt) I am pulling this “share” out to share.

It was an article I read in the AARP magazine that really made me realize I’m not the only one who sees how much it is a “couples world”.   No where is this more obvious than in restaurant dining and travel.  Those two things were really hit hard starting last Spring when the world shut down.

To quote the opening of the article by Christina Ianzito:

“The number of women wanting female-only trips has skyrocketed in recent years, with companies like Damesly, Whoa Travel and Living Big Travel devoted entirely to such excursions.  Other long-standing tour operators including Intrepid Travel and Road Scholar, now provide these kinds of trips in addition to their other ones.

Some women say they’d feel like a fifth wheel being single among a bunch of couples, and that a wonderful camaraderie develops when guys aren’t around.”

For years I’ve had one very special friend who travels alone or with other women friends (looking at you LL!) and has not let being alone hold her adventurous spirit hold her back!  What a fab role model she is to her three adult daughters.  What an inspiration she is to me!

So if wanderlust is knocking on your door, go check out the above companies (also including REI Women’s Adventures) and read up on popular “women-only” getaways!!  Maybe I’ll see you one day soon!!

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Ahhhh – Summertime, Summertime, Sum Sum Summertime!

(hopefully the tune hit your brain, LOL??)

One thing the start of the pandemic, the shutdowns, etc did for many was to help them clear all their “lists” of things to watch on every TV watching service available.

Whether it’s a DVR, a streaming service, a Netflix DVD – we were watching a multitude of things to fill the time.  Back in January it was something happening elsewhere.   Then it hit here.  What do you do when you hunker down?

TV programming!

I jotted down this from one of the many shows I watched, then forgot about it.   I uncovered it the other day and remembered I wanted to share it.   It made me chuckle.   We all need a good chuckle every now and again, right?

Not saying this is how you should approach life, but hey – if the shoe fits . . . . ?

“Not dealing with things is my preferred way of dealing with things”!

Wish I could remember which show I heard it on, I watched so many but there you have it.   Hope it brought a slight chuckle to you today.  (I think the heat is getting to me!)

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“Be His Light In The World”

Period.

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