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From Marlo Thomas:

“It Ain’t Over Till It’s Over”!

I saw an old interview the other day with Marlo Thomas.   I just love her voice, deep and raspy and sexy sounding.  I flash back to her old series, “That Girl”.  I thought, and still do, that she’s so beautiful.  Perfect skin, perfect hair – of course when I was younger and watching it, I had no idea that she had makeup artists and hair stylists keeping it that way.  But I digress . . .

They were talking to her about her life, her father, her marriage, her acting, her philanthropy, etc.  She’s a very active woman.  They wondered where her energy and drive come from?  That’s where the quote from her above comes in.

“It Ain’t Over Till It’s Over”!

Is that similar to when the Fat Lady sings?

Is today really the first day of the rest of my life?

I’ve lost, and given up, a lot over the past couple of years, enough to make me sit up and take notice.  And gosh darn it, I’m tired of it.  It’s time for me to kick it into gear and stop giving up on the things that mean so much to me.  It’s time to adopt a new mantra:

“It Ain’t Over Till It’s Over”!

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Here’s To Finding “Contentment” . . .

“Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us”.

I believe in some corners this is referred to as the Serenity Prayer.  Serenity, contentment, are these things that we can strive for and ever find in our busy lives?

I recently took a Meditation and Happiness class.  It was two classes, offered on consecutive Friday evenings at a nearby University.  Sure, why not?  What else am I doing on a Friday night?  Wink Wink . . .

The teacher had been trained by Tibetan Monks, had spent time with the Dali Lama.  (Did I spell that right?)   He had the lose flowing garments, and looked like a yogi.  He had his floor mat and pillow, spoke soothingly, taught us about breathing and releasing the mind.  I came closer to “getting it” than I ever have before, but still . . .

His mantra was much shorter than the one above, and focused on seeking “happiness”.  I have a friend who refers to it as seeking “quiet”.  Semantics.

I do believe that as I get older, it is important for me to move farther away from the frenetic life I used to thrive on, and those people who keep it that way.  Therefore, as it says above, I desire to be content with myself, and allow my soul the freedom, and dare I add – joy, to sing, dance, praise and love!

I wish these things for all of  you.

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Drama Queens??? Who Needs Them??

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.”

If getting back up is living, then I am alive and well!

When I was very young, being a child of older parents – I was always around much older adults.  There was more than the fair share of cranky old women and men.  I never understood why they were always in a bad mood.  I was pretty sure it had nothing to do with me, but I wondered what made them that way?

I promised myself then and there that I would not grow up to be a cranky old woman.

Uh Oh!

Now that I myself am an adult, surrounded by other adults – I think I’m beginning to understand.  I still don’t want to be “one of them, the cranky ones” – but I’m starting to understand the how and why they got that way.  The difference today?  I can make a choice to not let it turn me into the same thing.  I can remove myself.

When I read the above statement, it was like a very bright light bulb went off in my brain.  By nature I am the fixer, the pleaser, the consensus builder – but some people just do not want to be happy.  They thrive in their “poor me” land.  It’s the way they seek attention.  Not this woman.  Much like the past post I wrote several years ago about the “bobbin” on top of the water?  That’s me, I’m going to pop back up onto the surface.

Scroll back up and read the quote again.  Decide to walk away from the Drama Queens (or Kings) in your life.  Reside in a place where people make you laugh, and show you respect.  It’s hard to walk away, some of these people have been in my life for 30+ years, but they’re weighing me down.  I will be the Phoenix rising from the ashes, see me soar!

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Pause – – –

Sharing from my bud CS, my cowgirl back-up who always has my back.  You know, the kind of GF that supports you even when it’s not convenient?  Everyone needs one!  And it seems particularly good to share this at the beginning of a week, a short but sweet lesson!

 

“Practice the pause.

When in doubt, pause.

When angry, pause.

When tired, pause.

When stressed, pause.”

Hope this helps you get through your week a little more relaxed – remember to breathe!

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How To Not Settle For “Ordinary”?

Sweet friend CS passed this along to me the other day!!  As I’ve mentioned before, I love passing on wonderful tidbits and positive thoughts that are shared with me while taking zero credit for anything more than just knowing how to “cut and paste” on my laptop, LOL!!  Enjoy these positive thoughts for making your life a bit more “extra”ordinary shared from:

· Keri StanleyInternational Coach, Business Leader, Speaker, Heart-Centric Entrepreneur
The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is a little bit of “extra”….Anthony Robbins

I remember when someone would mention the words “extraordinary life,” the entire thought seemed only for the rich and famous. The idea seemed unreachable and only pertained to the lucky few. My self-talk would be jabbering in my mind saying “as if that’s ever going to happen to someone like me.” What I didn’t understand was that the greatest obstacle I had to overcome wasn’t to suddenly win the lottery, but to actually start showing up to live my life with just a little bit of extra. I finally woke up to the truth and stopped playing the victim card. I began to see that living an extraordinary life could truly be achieved with focusing on the small things in life building one adventure after another. Living an extraordinary life is a matter of mindset that anyone can achieve rather than a status that one has been given. There are many things that you can start doing right now that can take what would be considered an ordinary life into one that is extraordinary.

Here are five simple steps you can immediately put into practice to start living your extraordinary life NOW:

1. Make a list of 100 things to do in 2016: It’s the beginning of the year, so this is the perfect time to create your list. Take out a piece of paper and write down anything and everything that comes to mind. From the littlest things to the most extreme, it all goes on your list. The first few items will be easy because it’s usually how far we’ve allowed ourselves to think, yet give yourself some time to challenge your mind to fill up your list. We so easily get caught up in the routine of our lives that we typically don’t give ourselves permission to dream. The simple act of writing this list stretches your imagination and opens up the possibilities to see your life from a different perspective.

2. Change up your routine: We are creatures of habit and this can lead to staying comfortable, like snuggling up with your favorite pillow. However, when was the last time you went to get your Starbucks coffee and tried a different flavored latte? Have you ever driven to work and suddenly realized you don’t remember making any of the turns, yet shocked yourself to realize you were already in the parking lot? Our life can tend to run on auto-pilot and we spend a large amount of time completely numb to what is happening around us. Therefore, by changing up our typical routine, we begin to become more awake to the experiences of our own life.

3. Learn something new every month or two: When was the last time you did something for the first time? Remember when you were a kid and you had to learn something new all the time? You were nervous, excited, and a little scared when you first tried to ride a bike. Perhaps, you were even quite clumsy and a little embarrassed. But once you did it a few times, you began to get the hang of it and suddenly had a boost in your confidence with a feeling like you could fly. In other words, you were challenged to grow. Your confidence gained a big boost, and suddenly you were ready to conquer the world with your cape. Yet, as adults we tend to not allow ourselves to play and try something new. It’s easy to put things off you’ve always wanted to do saying “I’ll do it when”, but the” when” never comes. Bring out the kid in you again and pick something you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe a painting class or aerial yoga. Once you begin to push yourself just that little bit extra, you quickly grow your comfort zone and feel braver to do even more.

4. Hang around with others that live extraordinary lives: There are always those people that you wonder how they do it. The best way to find out what they do different is to spend a little time with them. See how they think, speak, and act differently. Dreaming Big is contagious and extremely energizing. You will be surprised at how quickly you begin to try some new things and feel more confident in stepping out of your ordinary life. Don’t forget your social media is a great place to hang out with those living extraordinary lives. This is a great way to follow some really inspirational people you might not normally hang out with and begin opening your mind to new ways of thinking.

5. Seize the day: There are opportunities that happen around us daily. Take note on how many times you would really love to do something, but for some reason you find yourself saying no. Many times we say no because we feel we don’t have time or money. Yet sometimes it’s a deeper feeling of not feeling worthy enough to have the experience. And finally, sometimes it is a matter of guilt or feeling we need to sacrifice ourselves for our family. Filling YOUR cup first, allows you to pour more of you into others, rather than only what is leftover. Start saying YES to just one or two things you might have originally said no to and watch your experiences begin to blossom.

The next time you find yourself feeling stuck in an ordinary life; try out at least one of these simple steps to put into place. Just that tiny bit of “extra” goes a long way and before you know it, you’ll be expanding your world and inspiring not only yourself, but those around you to do the same. Extraordinary living is contagious….pass it on.

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May The Force Be With You – – –

Quote: “Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.”

Sorry – couldn’t resist the Star Wars lead in!  I love the series and can’t wait for the next one to come out.  After seeing installment 7, I’m so ready for the next one.  Guess I’ll have to be a little patient?  Peace and patience – something I strive for every day.

What resonates with me in the quote above is the freedom in your soul!  I LOVE to “sing, dance, praise and love” – I try to do this every day.  Like the words in the Country song, “Sing like no one is listening, dance like no one is watching” – it’s amazing the life this gives to your soul.

So today, I challenge my followers to sing loudly, dance wildly, praise often and love always!  See if your soul doesn’t welcome this and make YOU a force to be reckoned with!

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My Table of 8 (Plus ++++++)

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you well, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.”

I read this a while back, and wanted to share it – but had to save it till after my daily “Life’s Lessons” ran their course.  I’m constantly gathering tidbits, always jotting down thoughts (crazy and otherwise) and receiving helpful notes from friends who know I write this blog!

Thank you!

The title refers to who you would like to keep “close.”  If your table is to be filled with those closest to you, who have helped you and supported you the most, who would they be?  Admittedly, my table of 8 has experienced some major shifts over the years.  They are today, not who I’d thought they would be.

Friends and family will surprise you, disappoint you, support you and drop you.   It’s a rollercoaster ride and some times you get slung off.  As I enter the “last third” of my life, I really want to be more careful who I trust and put my confidence in.  I’m tired of being let down, I’m tired of surprises – I want to wake to every day refreshed and smiling.

As I contemplate those who are special in my life, I hope my table of 8 can be crowded with a few more chairs – we’ll see.  Having just returned from a girls weekend retreat, I am reminded that we all look for that support in different ways.  Some give it freely, some have to be asked for it.  Should you have to ask for it?  Things that seem so obvious to me, are not that focused on by others.

Life is forever a journey of discovery!

Who is sitting at your table of 8 today?

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Lesson #34

“Get outside every day.  Miracles are waiting everywhere.”

I love this lesson.  This is right up my alley.  If I had to work in an inside office cubicle I think I’d wither up.

Getting outside allows you time to think and breathe and take in the beauty of the world.  Granted, freakish storms can keep you inside but in general, you should be able to get outside of your house, your office, your comfort zone.

Oxygen is vital to our existence, it’s vital to our brain to operate.  For years artists have painted beautiful landscapes that draw you into their beauty and pastoral settings.  Being outside makes me happy and even when I’m stuck in traffic I try to look around for the unusual or the beautiful.  (People can do some pretty hilarious looking things when they’re in their cars and think no one is watching!)  Not encouraging you to be a voyeur, but when they’re jiving to the radio, I try to guess what song they’re listening to.  Everyone thinks they’re Jimmy Kimmel!

Take a walk, visit a neighbor, make a grocery or pharmacy run, there seems to be a Starbucks close enough for anyone to walk to.  Drive to the park then walk around that park, say hi to someone and smile.  Breathe in, breathe out and look for the miracles that are everywhere.

 

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