A funny thing happened to me the other day when I was answering an email message by using my iPhone. Trying to be quick and “21st” century I abbreviated some of the words. Never assume your abbreviation is read the way you meant it!
In answering a comment about “moving on” from the hurt of divorce and into my new life as a single I remarked that I thought I was still “bttr”, even tho’ there had been some things that had recently irritated me!! I intended that “bttr” to be read as “better”! Imagine my surprise when my gal pal fired back a “msg” to me (ok couldn’t resist – that’s “message”) that she didn’t understand why I was still “bitter”? A bit of a lecture ensued.
I read her reply and went, “. . . huh? . . .” I had to go back to see if my fat fingers had hit the wrong key? (I do miss the raised keys of a Blackberry, I never made typing mistakes on the Blackberry!) I know that when I get going really fast on the iPhone that many times I can hit the wrong letter key because the pads of my thumbs are seemingly too wide for the letters.
How many times have I sent a message where I meant to type “list” and instead sent out the word “lust” since the “u” and “i” are side by side. I’m sure that’s made for some interesting interpretations of my message!! But, back to the story . . .
When I scanned my reply, I realized that she had misread the abbreviation. I clarified, all’s well! But it does make you think. Is being bitter ever better? Do you have to go through a bit of bitter before you can get better? Yes – plain and simple, it’s natural. I believe bitter can be better when it drives you to heal and get past the pain, the anguish, the grief of a married life that’s lost and motivates you to realize that you are an OK person without that man in your life.
I also believe that it’s never better to hold onto the bitter, because the only person you’re hurting is yourself and those closest to you who only want to help you get to a better place. That’s why my sweet friend fired back at me a little lecture, because she wants only the best for me, and to see me through to a better place. My bitter is getting better every day! So shall yours if you’ll let it – so start today and be better!
suddenlysinglewomen 
Good thoughts! We are the only ones in charge of how we do or do not listen to the voice in our head and then actively make the choice to take a positive path. It is not always easy to do and often takes time; however, it sure feels good once it’s done and we feel freed to move forward.