Cleaning out the “draft folder” – it’s full of things I find that grab my attention, and I want to post about them, but just need some time to think on it. So, I copy and paste, and save to “draft”.
Periodically I go back and edit, and post after fleshing out my thoughts. Sometimes it just speaks for itself, LOL! Making those positive changes in your life allows you to walk away from the negative nellies. Cannot say I’d go so far as the quote below, but it did make me chuckle, and I hope you’ll take it in the fun with which I intend by sharing it with you!
Jim’s Daily Awakenings
Sorry I Can’t Take Your Call Right Now . . .
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So How Are Those Resolutions Coming Along??
https://www.buzzfeed.com/jemimaskelley/tiny-changes
Had to squeeze in another post for the first month of a new year!! My sweet friend and constant promoter/follower CS sent this one to me. Thank you ma’am!! I really enjoyed reading all the suggestions for “tiny changes”, and even clicked on some of the links within this link.
I’ve been trying to add some of them to my day because I am determined that this is the year of feeling “Positive”! Moreover, I’ve even taken to sharing posts on Facebook on Fridays with the hashtag:
#FeelGoodFriday
Can you see the thread in my 2018 Blog posts so far?
When I share with people about my book, and my blog, they often mistake what it’s all about. They have no interest in reading it, or following it, especially if they’re happily married or have no divorce plans in their future. At first the lack of support really hurt my feelings, after all, I would certainly go buy a copy of a book if a friend wrote one – regardless of the content.
Yes, the book is definitely related to surviving divorce. More importantly, it’s for getting yourself back on track, and finding the best version of yourself. Same with the blog, as it started out about divorce survival, but has totally turned into a place to share positive thoughts, and new beginnings, reminders to take care of yourself AND show compassion to others.
Someday, I hope people will give it a chance instead of assuming they wouldn’t enjoy it, or need it. It’s been so cathartic for me, and the positive feed back I do receive from those who follow is what keeps me writing and sharing. So to you followers? Thank you from the bottom of my typing fingertips!!
2018 for me is going to be about feeling good about life, being happy with my circumstances, being grateful for my blessings, and spreading positivity through the world – at least my world.
I would love for you to join me. To quote from my alma mater: “What starts here changes the world”!
Just A Reminder – – –
While cleaning off my refrigerator the other day (note to self, double-sided sticky tape is really hard to get off your stainless steel appliances!!) – I finally took down one of my 2017 objectives.
Before it goes into the recycle bin, it bears repeating one more time – because it’s so pertinent to the “new year” and “new beginnings” I’ve been sharing. So indulge me and let’s run this one by one more time.
A quote by Brigitte Nicole:
Either they like you or they don’t Never try to convince somebody of your worth. If a person doesn’t appreciate you, they don’t deserve you. Respect yourself and be with people who truly value “you”.
Can I hear an AMEN!
New Year’s Eve – A Favorite . . .
. . . and boy am I in the minority. I like to go someplace festive and celebrate. Most of my friends want to stay in – I stay in all the time so to me, I want to be with happy, fun people to welcome in the New Year.
Think of all the possibilities for all the wonderful things that might happen to you in 2018?
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it, with a glass of bubbly in my hand!
I didn’t reach my goal of 100 followers by year’s end – bummer. So if you know of just one friend you could share this blog with? I bet I can get to 100 in 2018! What are your 2018 goals?
See you on the flip side, love my followers – CHEERS!!
Part Four – – –
Replace a doubting attitude, with an attitude of faith!
Faith – sometimes you feel like it leaves you. You begin to doubt everything that you learned growing up, because most likely few of us have the lives today we thought we were going to.
Am I right?
My Father and I had a special relationship. He was my hero, I miss him every day. If he said he was going to do something, and the creek didn’t rise, he did it. You could count on him and I did. I never had any doubt in him.
Doubt was something that entered my life in college. Was I good enough? Was I smart enough? Would I get a job? Could I support myself? He had always been my rock and my foundation making sure to bolster my self confidence and make me believe in myself.
As an adult, doubt enters your life many times – and suddenly your hero isn’t there for you any more. Others that you depend on let you down, you fell abandoned. You lose faith in all you were taught to believe in.
I’ve had the chance over the past ten years to face my doubts, and to re-establish my faith, both in people and in my own spirituality. Don’t get me wrong, people will still let me down. The difference is now I have the faith to move past those disappointments. I have the faith that I am going to be alright!
Part Two – – –
Continuing on from the Book:
“Lord, Change My Attitude Before It’s Too Late”
OK – tell the truth, have you been thinking of the things you’re grateful/thankful for? Hope so!
Here’s the second installment!
Replace a Covetous Attitude with an Attitude of Contentment!
Covet, kind of an old fashioned word. Synonymous with envy? I googled it and found this:
“Covetous, greedy, acquisitive, grasping, avaricious mean having or showing a strong desire for especially material possessions. Covetous implies inordinate desire often for another’s possessions.”
Strong words – makes me picture a snarling and drooling wild hound. You get the drift though. It’s never being happy with what you have. It’s a “have not’s” kind of jealousy of the “have’s”. I admit that I sometimes used to covet the loving relationships that some of my friends have with their husbands or significant others. Does that make me a bad person? No, probably just makes me a “real” person. It also doesn’t get me anywhere toward the goal of being a happy person.
Contentment with what you have is something I think you acquire the older and wiser you get. You learn that “things” don’t make you happy. You learn that “people” don’t have the responsibility to make you happy. YOU make you happy.
Sure, who doesn’t want to get that new pair of shoes you saw in the magazine, but when you have plenty of shoes already – shouldn’t you be content? Looking around the world today, I’m often reminded of just how content I should be with the freedoms of this country, the friends and family who care for me, the pantry and fridge that are full of nutrition for my body, the resources that allow me to pay my bills and have a roof over my head, the nature that is food for my soul.
It’s not quite as fun as High School graduation was, but I can say that I have graduated. I can feel the contentment settle over me every day now. I may not have chosen the status of divorced single woman of a “certain” age approaching the age medicare – but it gave me the opportunity to learn how to be a content woman – and that’s worth all the tea in China!
Chick Flick
Chick Flicks! We all have our favorites, most of them end “happily ever after”, or at least “happy”?
They’re the ones that you could never get your husband/date/significant other to go see with you at the theater, so you waited to go with a group of gal pals, or just waited to see it on HBO, or Showtime, or Netflix.
I watched one of these the other night, and it so reminded me of my life, and how a group of women “function” many times. It has best friends, and three generations of women characters. It had it’s fun parts, it’s sad parts, it’s silly parts, and it’s poignant moments. So just thought I would throw it out there in case you’ve never seen it.
“The Women”
It has a great ensemble cast of women such as Meg Ryan, Candice Bergen and Annette Bening. After I watched it, I realized thinking back that there were never any men in the scenes. Or if there were, I don’t remember them. They’re always “implied”. The movie is all about the relationships and interactions of the women.
So next time you don’t have plans and have an evening “in” to fill, add this one to your watch list. I think you’ll enjoy it! And hopefully you’ll appreciate all those wonderful women you have in your life, like I do.
Chicken Soup – Third Share
This will be the last share, there are so many, but I also have so many others things to offer here that I’m going to move on after this one.
Chapter 100, pages 338-340 by Tena Beth Thompson:
“When I was newly divorced, I found life scary and intimidating. At first, I felt I was being punished, but in reality I was given the opportunity to find myself and create a new life. I had no idea where it would take me, but I was ready to take the leap. Although I was frightened to travel in a new direction, it was also exciting to ponder my options. I didn’t know exactly what I wanted, but I knew what I didn’t want: the old me. I was not the same person I had misplaced all those years ago. Prior to this time, my epitaph could have read, “She died without ever having lived.” Thankfully, that would no longer be the case. I was now strong and embraced the courage I never knew I had.”
This can be your view no matter what has occurred to alter your “life as you knew it”.
I went from being a daughter, to a wife, to a mother. I was never just me. There were times I was made to feel like being “me” wasn’t good enough, or a part of “the plan” – even though I had very little input into that same plan.
Now I make the plan. Now I can be “me”. I have been given the gift of a new beginning and as it said on the cover of this book – I will “thrive”. It’s not without it’s challenges, and scary times, but I’m going to be happier and stronger than ever before!
More Chicken Soup . . .
Here’s another share of a portion of the book I mentioned in the previous blog post:
“Chicken Soup for the Soul – Divorce and Recovery”, although as I pointed out, these excerpts that I share here can relate to many different circumstances that we all face. It’s all about being the very best version of ourselves that we can be. They use the word “thrive” – and I like that concept alot. So here goes another, . . .
Chapter 79, pages 263-266 as shared by: Deborah Batt.
“Years of caring for others had caused me to ignore my own needs. Oddly enough, I came to the realization that I did in fact have needs. I needed to feel warmth and love. I needed to feel accepted and that I somehow belonged. I needed to feel respected and honored. I needed to feel happy and content. But, most of all I needed to feel that the one person in the whole world who should love me the most would love me the most, regardless of the mistakes that I’ve made. Someone who could accept my faults and praise my strengths and make me feel everyday that I was the best that I could be.”
Now doesn’t that apply to almost any situation? Not just divorce, but the need to feel valued by those around us?
I hope for you that you have those people in your life that make you feel valuable, and loved for who your are. The others just aren’t worth your time . . .
Each Day A Gift – Up To You How To Spend It?
Rumored to have been found in the wallet of Coach Paul Bear Bryant on his death in 1982, whether it was or not, it’s still a good thing to share and “ponder”. How will you spend it today?
The Magic Bank Account
Imagine that you had won the following *PRIZE* in a contest:
Each morning your bank would deposit $86,400 in your private account for your use.
However, this prize has Rules:
The set of Rules:
1. Everything that you didn’t spend during each day would be taken away from you.
2. You may not simply transfer money into some other account.
3. You may only spend it.
4. Each morning upon awakening, the bank opens your account with another $86,400 for that day.
5. The bank can end the game without warning; at any time, it can say, Game Over!” It can close the account and you will not receive a new one.
What would you personally do?
You would buy anything and everything you wanted right? Not only for yourself, but for all the people you love and care for. Even for people you don’t know, because you couldn’t possibly spend it all on yourself, right?
You would try to spend every penny, and use it all, because you knew it would be replenished in the morning, right?
ACTUALLY, This GAME is REAL… Shocked ??? YES!
Each of us is already a winner of this *PRIZE*. We just can’t seem to see it
The PRIZE is *TIME*
1. Each morning we awaken to receive 86,400 seconds as a gift of Life.
2. And when we go to sleep at night, any remaining time is not credited to us.
3. What we haven’t used up that day is forever lost.
4. Yesterday is forever gone.
5. Each morning the account is refilled, but the bank can dissolve your account at any time WITHOUT WARNING…
SO, what will YOU do with your 86,400 seconds?
Those seconds are worth so much more than the same amount in dollars.
Think about it and remember to enjoy every second of your life, because time races by so much quicker than you think.
So take care of yourself, be happy, love deeply and enjoy life!
Here’s wishing you a wonderful and beautiful day.
Start spending….
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